had sex last night (first time)

so i lost my virginity last night and it honestly hurt. the guy i was with was fairly large and we did enough fore play, i know that for sure. I told him that it hurt and he told me we didn't have to do anything if i didn't want but i wanted to so he fingered me and ate me out until i said we should try it again. we did and it felt good for the most part. so i go to sleep and wake up in so much pain and i'm still a little sore. is it usually like this and after how many times will it be like this because i plan to have sex again with him? any advice to make it better?