Husband is in total denial...

We've been ttc for awhile. Dealt with various health issues, but finally got into a good, healthy place. I'm the healthiest I've been in 20 years. I need to vent and maybe some advice... Or commiserations...or something. I'm just outta ideas.

I turned 40 over the summer... And while my husband really wants a baby, he can't seem to grasp any ttc basics... Like the fertile window and ovulation. He thinks you just have sex whenever & poof, a baby. He doesn't like to be wrong and since he's learned about it in school, he knows. *eye roll* And we're only having sex once every couple of month.

He also is failing to understand that the clock is officially ticking. We don't have 10 years to try... I try to bring it up in the least pressure creating way, gentle and positive, but he just isn't hearing it or doesn't believe me...

When we talk about the future, he's always mentioning a baby. I finally told him 2 months ago I'm not ttc when I'm 45, so get it together. I wasn't mean, just matter of fact. Obviously it fell on deaf ears. I just don't know how to get through to him. If he doesn't want a baby, I wish he'd just say so. If he does want one, I wish he'd understand that I'm not 20 anymore and timing matters.

I have been more than understanding through his health issues that put ttc on hold, his feelings, making sure he doesn't feel pressured, finding creative ways to let him know I'm fertile and making his life easier to get in the mood. It's exhausting... I'm just at the end of my rope with all the effort with him and tracking ovulation... Ugh.

Thanks for reading.