How do you cope, when your husband leaves?

Question

So my husband and I just had our last child in April. We have had a lot of ups and downs, more downs. Years of counseling. Well, this past weekend, we separated. I've reached out to him, few times and well he said he doesn't know what he wants. He doesn't want to give me false hopes, wants his family, but not the life we had. He doesn't want to be pressured, But, only time will tell. This is so hard.

How have others coped with this? I've got million and one things running through my mind. Can others pls share your stories. Should I give him his space, and back off? He doesn't reach out at all! Could use the prayers, thanks! 😞😞

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Give him his space. The more you push, the farther you will push him away. A man that wants a woman will let them know. The more you chase the more you loose.

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Try to take this as an excellent opportunity to focus on yourself. Explore new avenues. Focus on your job or maybe going back to school if you want. 
If you need to talk to someone, seek out a therapist. Sometimes you need to say things to someone who isn't your family, partner or a friend. You can say it without fear or judgement.

He is exploring his needs and desires and you should do the same. Maybe YOU won't want to get back together but you'll never know if you are waiting for HIS decision.

Being in a marriage is a joint decision. Make sure when he comes to the table with his decision, you have your own.

Prove to yourself (and others) that you're strong! Good luck.

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When my daughter was 3 months old my husband and I separated, he didn't know what he wanted, was overwhelmed by everything and let his drinking consume his life. I stayed in close contact while still allowing him to have his space and let him decide what it was he really wanted, it was a hard year but when my daughter turned one we tried to make things work. It wasn't easy and still isn't at times but communication is so important. When we decided to make things work we sat down and he voiced what he needed changed in our relationship and I voiced what I needed, we made a lot of compromises but here we are years later going strong. Our daughter is now 5 we just welcomed a baby boy in April and currently trying for #3. Most people told me I was dumb for hangin on and I should of left and never looked back but my family is the most important thing to me so I fought for what I wanted, space isn't always the best thing for a relationship but in my case it was what was best and it lead us to where we are now in a healthy loving marriage

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Just try to focus on you and your kid. The only way you are going to know if he really wants to be with you is if he makes the effort on his own. A lot of people go through this and make it thru ok. They just need space. Don't stop trying, keep reaching out. But try to stay limited and just leave the door open for him to come around. I hope he does. Sorry you are going through this.

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why is he allowed to make his fam an oprion?

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I've never experienced this with my husband thank God. But with my ex bf he said that to me for me to later find out he had a new gf. When he got tired of her sexually he tried to run back to me. Needless to say I did not accept him back.

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