What do you do when you are raising your husbands 8 year ol daughter. Her mother left her when she was about a year and a half old. She has been rubbing her self off since she was about a year and a half old. She's been lying compulsively cause arguments between you and your husband. Admits that she is jealous of you. I also have a 5 year old that she has been trying to do sexual things to. Came up with a "surprise game? To where that it requires pulling each other pants down. My 5 year old claims that the 8 year old stuck her finger up her butt and it hurt. Then she teachers her a wake me up game to which it requires the 5 year old smacking the 8 year old on the butt to wake her up. She's been doing what her aunt calls cricket legs in which she pulls her pants and panties up in her vagina and woks her legs til she gets off. She smiles at me when I tell her she needs time out. And it takes her dad telling her to do it before she will. You can't whip her because she likes it! She seriously wants spanked. She also thinks that if she eats punished then the 5 year old should be punished and if the 5 year old is punished then she should be punished because it ain't fair. I'm pregnant with twins at 14 weeks and I've been so stressed I been having contractions.  HELP PLEASE