need help

Me and my boyfriend have been arguing a lot . But I feel as though it's lack or understanding , like he wants to do his way of things or say what he wants , but me I kinda do that also but not so much , I just feel like sometimes it should be more of "think how a woman will feel " type of thing but ion I need help on how to get thru this like is there ways to not argue based on understanding , I know it might sound dumb but .. I need help