he wanted to try anal, I said no and he tried anyway. (TMI sex talk)

Naturally I said no, I was in a relationship for 3 years and I wouldn't do it then so there's no way I was doing it with someone I knew I never wanted to see again. 

Anyway, I said no to him and we carried on just having normal sex, it was actually good until he started trying to get freaky. He basically pulled out and started fingering me (I don't like that anyways) but it's like he thought it was some kinda porno! The only way I can describe the way he was rubbing my clit was going 100mph with his whole hand attempting to give it friction burn or slice it off! 😂 😂😂

Then he finally gives up after I pulled off an Oscar award winning performance and faked orgasm 😂 seriously girls. I deserve the actress of the year award 😂 

So then he comes back to kiss me and blah blah blah and try's to do a 69 which again, not happening. So instead he went down on my for all of 5 minutes before anchoring his body Ontop of me and jamming his dick in my mouth, I actually threw up on it. Like he put it inside me then forced it in my mouth and was thrusting it down my throat. At that point i felt violated. 

Then, me being in what I can only explain as shock and thinking he just got carried away, continued. 

We start fucking, again and he slaps my face.. Like seriously? So I slapped him back and he flipped me (bare in mind I'm not even a small girl.) and starts fucking me so hard it almost hurt, this is where things got ugly. 

He pulled out, spat on my ass then shoved his thumb up there after I said no. I started freaking out. I pulled myself away instantly and he was like "oh I was only kidding" and again. In shock I let him carry on having sex with me, though I just wanted to go home. 

In the end of it, he was about to nut and tried shoving it in my ass to do it and the second I realised what he was about to do I flipped myself onto my back and he stood over me staring like I was some crazy person cause I didn't let him put it in there, then he tugged on himself to cum all over me which we had already discussed and I'd told him I didn't like it and would be upset if he did it. 

I don't know what to make of it. I spoke to a friend about it cause I wasn't even sure what to call it's as it didn't seem like sex to me but she says that because I was willing in the beginning that I can't complain that things got freaky..

I don't know. Has anyone else had this happen? I don't know what to feel and honestly it's kind of scared me off having sex. 

EDIT

I'd just like to add on, yes I could have left I think but honestly at the time I was in a state of shock and if I had of left I had no where to go and it was about 2am, I didn't even know where I was properly. I'd had a couple of drinks and didn't know what to do. I wouldn't call it rape as some people have suggested in the comments as I did consent to the night together, what I'm questioning is why it's scared me into not being able to be involved with someone sexually again and what to call the moments where he was doing it. I have been raped before as a teen and It wasn't the same as that though the shock was, the main reason we continued was because I was worried how he'd act if I went to leave as it was in a hotel that he'd paid for and he spent half the time we had been talking bragging how he'd been in fights and prison.