Thinking of my abuser ruined sex...

The summer before last I was in a very bad sexual situation, that has scarred me to say the extreme least. It has left me with very bad anxiety and flashbacks. Anyhow, my SO and I were having some romantic time and out of no where I just got scared. I had the same feelings I did the summer night that went wrong. I froze, then jumped out of bed and put clothes on and just sat there. I ended up just wrapped in his arms bawling... I'm so afraid he thinks it was his fault. It totally wasnt. I kept telling him it wasn't him it was me. I just feel horrible. It came out of nowhere...I ended up explaining to him that sometimes it just happens and that it still hurts even though it's been a while. I had seen the person who had done it too me early that week and I guess it just shook me up.