Frustrated

Ok, so my daughter was born at the end of august. My husband hasnt been too hands on at all. He rarely changes her nappies, never bathes her or does the night time routines. He doesnt help at all with house work or even support me when i need it or ask for it. Instead he constantly has a go at me about how little i do around the house. Only he is hardly home as he works away for a werk and when his home his working on the family farm so never sees what i do. Than he gets mad and annoyed when i dont want to get intimate... can you blame me? Why would i want to please someone that wont turn around and do the same for me let alone puts me down sll the time. Im just so frustrated with him. Ive tried a number of times to let him know how i feel but he thinks cos he brings home the money and pays for everything he is excluded from housework and deserves sex. Since our daughters been born we have been intimate maybe 7 times due to tears etc i was out 8 weeks. I just dont know what to do anymore. Like today i washed 3 loads of washing, put away 3 other loads, mopped floors, washed dishes, baked and iced a cake, as well as caring for our almost 5 month old. Than he said to my face i do f@*k all housework. Im pretty sure thats more than he did! He wont even make the bed. Grrr... so mad.