for the teen girl who is TTC...

Teen pregnancy was always a heated discussion on glow while I was pregnant and now that I have my baby I see why. Im 20 so I'm not a "teen mom" but I'm far younger than the average age. I got accidentally pregnant during my sophomore year of college, just after I joined a sorority, just as I started to make friends that liked me for who I was, just as I settled into my major and began to love my classes. I could've gotten an abortion, my family would've supported me but it didn't feel right to me. I'm typing this as my daughter lays on my chest and I love her with all my heart. She's the most beautiful baby I have ever held and I'm so thankful for her existence because she's truly brought so much happiness to my family. BUT with that being said I wish there was some way I could've post poned her birth by a couple years. I go to community college now and so does her father. We have a great relationship but sometimes all we have is eachother. We're lonely a lot, we don't have many friends anymore because we have to be home to take care of our daughter. We used to be quite popular. I was so carefree and independent. You hear how being a mother changes your life in big ways but I miss the little things the most. I loved my little coffee trips to Barnes & Noble and having random Netflix binge nights with my sisters. We had the craziest adventures, dancing our hearts out at parties and coming home to devour 4 pizzas and countless chicken nuggets. I miss that. And for the really young girls looking to have a baby, you'll miss that time in your life too. I know accidents happen but please use birth control (mine failed so use condoms too). You only get a little bit of time to be young and independent so enjoy that. Knowing that the party scene isn't for you isn't a reason to rush parenthood. Most of the things I miss aren't party/drinking related. It was being able to 100% focus on my education. To pull caffeine fuled all nighters in my universities library. To spontaneously grab brunch with a friend. To go out with my boyfriend and not have to think about coming home in time to breastfeed. Enjoy yourself and enjoy your freedom because your time will come. Like I said, I love my daughter. She became my everything the moment she was placed on my chest and I'm so thankful that I got the opportunity to be a mother but I wish I got to be just a daughter a little bit longer. That's why some women are so mean when you say you're TTC. Because we're on the other side of motherhood and we know how so very hard and exhausting it can be and we think it's in your best interest that you wait just a little longer. Maybe it's not, I can't speak for all of you but I hope that you'll reconsider because once you have a baby you will never have the luxury of putting yourself first again