weight loss

Before I had babies was 145 which was when I was most confident I went threw lots of issues and just recently had my 2nd child last year after I had her I lost weight but now I'm back up to 230lbs I have no confidence and hate the way I look which in turn makes me feel like crap. I know I need to be healthier and have a more positive outlook on my body image especially since now I have a daughter and I want her to have a good role model but here's the kicker I'm terrified to lose the weight I've never really been super small but I've never been this big either. Words of encouragement would be great, recipes, workouts I can do at home. Does anybody else feel like this feel scared to lose the weight?