do I have a right to be selfish during L&D?

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Soooo my I asked my husband if his parents could come a week after babies due date so I can be peaceful during end of pregnancy, labor, & delivery. Well he didn't care & they are coming a week before my due date. I'm 38w4d & they'll be here once I'm 39 weeks.

Well no sign of baby & im getting stressed because I just want it to be me him & my doula. I don't feel comfortable with anyone being around during this time not even my own family. I just wanted it to be a calm experience. Now I have to worry about his parents being loud in a time of peace & I can't put boundaries. He told me make sure to tell my parents hi here & there while your in labor 😒 
He also said he'll skype with them while he's in the room with me. 😐

It's just so upsetting because his parents are loud! & my husband said while I'm in labor he's gonna keep checking on his parents and be with them. I understand he'll nap in beggingig of labor, go to the bathroom, or want to eat but I don't feel like it's right for him to go check on his parents & have full on conversations while I'm in pain.

He doesn't understand why I don't want his parents around or even care. I mean my mom won't even be there because I wanted to share this experience with only him & not have distractions.

Am I being dramatic?

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I'm sorry be he sounds like an ass. He's putting his parents before you.

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Omg. I would say since he has chosen to make decisions on his own to suit his own needs I would go to the hospital and request that you not have any visitors at least for a day. They will abide by your wishes.

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That's not fair of him to do that to you, he doesn't understand your feelings at all because he can't relate(nor will he ever) since he isn't the one going to be in labor. He needs to respect your feelings and let his parents know not to come until you wish it.

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Put your foot down and tell him no. If your stressed out your baby will be and it will make labor hard for you.

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You're the one PUSHING A HUMAN OUT. You've got every right and need to have the room as much about you as possible. Honestly if my partner were acting like that I might even consider not having him in the room.

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Are they planning to stay with you? I can't think of anything more ungracious than being a house guest of someone who could go into labor at any second!

You need to have a clear convo with him about your wishes. There is no reason for anyone other than you to be calling the shots regarding your labor!

That being said, you might want to laptop there periodically.  There will be a lot of down time.

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That would stress me out! You're the one pushing a baby out - you get to call all the shots. Do what makes you comfortable & if hubby still ignores your wishes, enlist the nurses' help in enforcing your wishes. It's whatever will cause you the least amount of stress as that will impact labour.

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I let absolutely no one but my husband come into the room at all while I was in labor. Our parents were all in the waiting room and at first I felt bad but then just decided that it was their choice. We called them to let them know I was in labor and asked that they don't come up because I didn't want to see anyone but they came because they wanted to be there the moment the baby was born. My parents eventually went home around 1am but my in laws stayed all night. I am lucky enough to have family who respects that I wanted to be alone and they just wanted to be available if needed. But yes, put your foot down. That pain is no joke.

do I have a right to be selfish during L&D?

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