Sexual abuse?

Question

My ex was a very sexual and horny guy... 
He was into a lot of certain things. Some I liked, others i didnt. 
He would try to get me to have sex in bathrooms at places, or at school or at a friends house, and i wouldnt want to because you know, i wanted privacy andwhat  not. 
Well he would start feeling me and touching me anyways, and i get horny very easily so i got wet , even though i was telling him no to having sex. And then he would pull me into the bathroom or around the corner and i would still be saying no, but once he was in me, i stopped saying no, i couldnt help it at that point, i was very arroused. 
Thats not like sexual abuse or anything right? My friend keeps trying to argue with me on this. (She isnt a fan of him for this reason).

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Honestly it is. You said no clearly and he didn't listen. Sex is an act two people agree on, not when one wants it and the other one doesn't. He didn't respect your wishes and ignoring the fact that you said no.

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This is tricky. I guess the question you need to ask yourself is: Do you genuinely enjoy it? Because, yes, rape by coercion is a thing, and he IS pressuring you into doing things you have clearly not consented to. I would say it's definitely a red flag. If you don't see it as abuse, then you may continue your relationship if you want, I just recommend keeping a close eye on that sort of behavior before it goes too far.

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It's absolutely not okay for him to continue after you say no. It doesn't matter if you stopped saying it after a certain point- the absence of a no is NOT a yes. This was, by definition, rape.

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Yes. I agree with your friend. If you told him no he should of stopped.

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Lowkey it kind of is... If you say no then he should respect that. Not just stick his penis in you anyway just cause you're his gf and should say yes.

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I did say no at first, then throughout the touching and feeling, but once he was in, i stopped saying no. 
Im a sex addict, (recovered), so i think that may be why its hard for me to tell. I dont want it at those times, but then he gets in me and my brain totally changes.

Sexual abuse?

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