Bf didnt get me anything for Valentines Day.
I know valentines day was 3 days ago but I really need to vent because I have been extra moody about things. Me and my bf agreed to not go out for valentines day because we would be too tired. He works and gets off at 4 and wakes up the following day kinda early. For myself I just didn't have much energy to want to go out with my 3 month old. I thought by the time we had to get ready and get the baby ready as well it would be tiring. We agree to stay home watch movies and get papa johns. Anyways vday is here and I try not to get excited if he bought me anything, he texts me happy valentines day and picks us up around 4. I see there is no present, flowers, or anything. He starts driving home and I asked him if we were going to get pizza. He says he has no money but we can eat a bowl of noodles when we get home (wow) I tell him that's fine, I have money. (from my savings since I am currently not working). So we go get pizza, he orders more then what we eat like always and I pay like 35$ we get home and I see he bought 6 big bags of chips for himself (thats like 18$) and I get upset but don't tell him anything. He gives me little hersey kisses and I guess that was my gift. Just little Hersey kisses. The whole time he is complaining how the pizza is cold and its annoying me. I tell him to stop because the baby was crying and being fussy and he wouldn't shut up. He tells me once he gets paid Friday (today) he will give me money to go do my nails and my hair and he will watch the baby so I can go have some me time. I get super happy, thought it was sweet since I have been feeling pretty bummy. I tell him thank you and we go to sleep. Friday comes, and he doesn't mention anything. I spend the whole day watching the baby and he is being lazy to help me. He was on his phone for awhile and when I asked him what he was doing he said he was setting up his Xbox account or w.e since he just bought a new membership. When I asked how much did he spent he said it was 60. I was furious and for the rest of the night my attitude changed. He then said he wanted to go to the movies tomorrow and if we had a babysitter (meaning my mom) I get annoyed and say no since he knows we shouldn't ask my mom (long story) I told him I needed to go do my taxes and he agrees to take me. Later on that night I must have gotten over it or honestly just forgotten because we were talking and he mention about this game he really wants in March and if I was still going to get it for him. I say yes ask how much and its 30$ I say okay and forget about it. Then I remember about valentines day and how he never does any nice shit for me and I get all moody all over again. I try to control my feelings because I know all this sounds silly but literally I am tired of him doing anything romantic. For Christmas we were both tight on money but I still manage to get him a sweather/hoodie from champs and he felt "soo" bad that the following day he took me to get my nose piercing as my Christmas gift 😞 I kept telling him I didn't want my nose pierced again but he kept insisting so I guess that was more for him. For my bday NOTHING. I gave birth a day before my bday so of course we couldn't do anything but he didn't manage to get me anything not even a balloon or card. During the holidays he kept saying he will be good with money on valentines day and apparently not since I couldn't even receive some flowers. Then he has the nerve to ask for a game. This is the guy who keeps insisting on me staying home and not work to watch our baby because he doesn't want to pay for a baby sitter just so I can go work part time minimum wage and spent half of it for just transportation. I am getting annoyed I want to stay home with my baby but I have always worked for my own money. I have loans and credit cards to pay off and even though he says he will help me I am worried he will not and even if he does I feel like I am always going to be nagging for money for a payment. Am I being unreasonable? How can I approached him with all this? He recently started working at this job for a month and he told me a week ago that he was receiving a bonus. He never mentioned it again or talks about his pay. Is this fair?
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