why do I feel this way???

Question

I'm 8 wks along with my second child. This was a planned pregnancy. My husband and I got lucky on the first week of trying ! I should be over the moon but I'm not. I have some health issues so I just assumed we would have to try for a while or just not be able to conceive. I also had some issues while I was pregnant with my first. I just have so many emotions. I'm worried if the baby will be healthy? Will I be healthy? how can I love a child as much as I love my first child? I want so badly to be excited and happy but I feel worried . I don't think I'll find relief until I get my second trimester screening to rule out any horrible things. I just want to be positive and happy but I'm not I feel like an horrible mother. I should be thanking god and grateful . I just feel so alone in my thoughts I don't want to tell any family or friends . Please help any advise

Answer

I've never been through this. I'm pregnant with my first child and got lucky pregnant within a month of starting to try. I am over the moon happy and grateful, despite being sick all day with nausea. But I do worry like most mom's and when the worry comes in a tsunami wave, I touch my tummy where he baby is and repeat the mantra "I'm healthy, my baby is healthy, everything is perfect." And repeat this until I believe or the concern washes away. I think it's normal to worry and to be scared of things going wrong, regardless of anything that's going on or that has happened. But we must remain positive and make sure we don't obsess over negative thoughts, as we attract what we think about (and feel). I hope you will see very soon what a blessing it is to having got pregnant so fast. Some women take years... or it never happens for them. If you got pregnant, there's a reason why God has blessed you with this child. There's a purpose in everything and just start looking at this whole experience as a gift and you may just change your perspective in the process. Bless your heart! ❤

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I HAVE been through this. I have 3 kids and after each pregnancy I've had an 'oh shit maybe this was a mistake' time period. I didn't announce my 2nd pregnancy  (except immediate family) until after the 20 week anatomy scan and with my 3rd I only told family and close friends I was even pregnant, my 3rd baby arrived and on Facebook it was like 'surprise I was pregnant for months here's my baby!' I don't have much advice except to try to enjoy as much as possible and rest assured this doesn't mean you're not ready and you'll be as good of a mom, if not better, to this baby as you are with your first.

why do I feel this way???

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