Did your work do anything?

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I miscarried the beginning of January and had a dilation and evacuation on 2/17/2017. My job didn't do anything for me after I miscarried and I didn't expect them to, but after I had surgery I thought I might get a card or something. I didn't miss any work, just the day of surgery and it was a Friday so I was back on Monday. A coworker of mine had a cyst on her butt that ended up being quite infected and she was admitted to the hospital and this morning they sent a card around the office for her. I had my first pregnancy suctioned out of my uterus and all I got was a "how ya feelin"? It really hurts my feelings.

**update**
As I was posting this someone came in and said the coworker is going into surgery for her infection. While this infection is obviously very serious, it still hurts that an infected cyst gets more attention than the loss of life.
    **update 2**
the doctor's wife (I work in a surgeon's office), the office manager, and our PR lady just brought me flowers and cupcakes.

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I got these sent to my house.

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I lost my son at 17 weeks and it's funny as I was just thinking how disappointing it has been as my work hasn't sent me anything.

Will make going back harder

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No babe nothing not even a card to say everyone is thinking of me 😓😓😓 quite sad if u ask me u are just a number xxx so sorry for your loss x

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I had two losses, and nothing was done for me at work. I honestly believe that people don't know what to say, or how to react. My coworkers spoke to me privately because they didn't want to upset me.

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Guys, my office manager, the doctor's wife, and our PR person just brought me cupcakes and flowers. The doctor's wife wanted to wait a few days thinking I might get upset too soon. I feel like a dick now!

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Unfortunately it is still very taboo and people don't know how to approach the situation. I think being open and honest like you were and sharing this information will eventually make people more open and comfortable with sharing their condolences and communicate.

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Only my boss and a lady from HR knew. They've been incredibly supportive. I had 2 weeks off and I've been back for 2 weeks and they've checked I'm ok a lot. So no card or anything but their support means so much more, especially as my boss is male. I even got a promotion after it happened. Xx

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I was suddenly admitted to the hospital last August after my water broke at 20 weeks. I was there for a month and my son was born at 24 weeks.  He died in the NICU 7 weeks later. I went back to work this month after 5 months away. My manager had been in contact with me the whole time and knew the whole story but didn't tell anyone else. So all of my co workers thought I just took a long maternity leave. 3 weeks later and people are still asking "How's the baby?"

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I was induced at 24 weeks due to my baby having Trisomy 18 and a hole in her heart that was unrepairable. I had to tell my work when I heard the news because I was unable to work. My bosses then notified my co workers on what was happening and why I wouldn't be there for awhile.  I was told they were getting me something or doing something for me, but I've went there twice now and nothing.. just ppl saying they are sorry. 
One of my coworkers did stop by with a beautiful necklace with my daughters initials on it.. which was nice. But at my work we make cards for ppl for everything.. including when someone is out sick. So I was a little disappointed they hadn't even done that.

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I'm sorry :( I had a mmc and a D&C. My coworkers sent me flowers to the house.

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