drying out

Kya
Okay so i've only had sex once, we used a condom but i was much drier than i am when i masturbate. It was kind of embarrassing and it started to hurt so i tapped out before he got to cum 😩  But when i masturbate, 9 times out of 10 it's clit stimulation instead of actually going inside. Anyone know why and what i can do to help it?