man with child dating, what to do?

Question

Seeing as my last post got removed for whatever reason, I'm posting it again but I will put more detail.....
I met a girl through some friends, my son August is 3 years old. I found out she works at the child care place my son goes to so she she gets a long with my child really well.
I got to know her really well, we were dating for around 7 months (only seeing each other) but were not official, everyone knew we were pretty much together, so eventually I officially asked her to be my girlfriend, so 3 months of an official relationship, all together 10 months.
Everything was going well until friends posted photos from a camping trip we all went on. The photos were of two of our friends, my son and myself. My girlfriend commented on it saying "Look at my boys, look at little Auggie" When my girlfriend said this she was referring to everyone in the photo, not just my son and me. She's very close with the two friends we went with..

My girlfriend has only ever posted one video of my son on IG, which she asked if she could, I have no problem with that seeing as it's on private.
My ex has gone way over the top about how dare she call him hers or even call him Auggie, or how dare she post anything that mention Auggie. 
I tried to explain the situation but got no where with it, eventually I cracked it saying "we had discussed this that when we broke up we needed to stay out of the other future relationships, you have a new man and I have no problem with that" as I think he is a great guy and has kids of his own.

My girlfriend has been ignoring her but my ex keeps threatening to try take my son away from me until I leave this girl.
Shes constantly messaging my girlfriend through other people.
My girlfriend has blocked her, even I blocked her on all social media but I need to keep my phone.
I'm considering buying another phone to use to message friends and just keep the one I have for when it comes to stuff with my phone

I don't want my relationship ruined.

Any advice on how to deal with a situation like this? legal advice?
If we got a restraining order how would that effect my son? To drop him off to the other we usually meet at the park?

Answer

First off I hope you have a legal custody agreement. Unfortunately your ex needs to realize that when you have a child with someone, but are not WITH that person, you are going to have to share your child (to some extent) with that persons future SO. It's going to make it hard on your relationship. But try and work through it.

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I responded to your first post. My SO had issues with his ex acting foolish just like your ex did over nothing. She'd tell him that dating me would be the end of his relationship with his sons. The foolishness didn't stop until he took her to court; sued her and won joint legal and physical custody with no child support. He did 99% of it without a lawyer so his legal expenses were minimal when compared to the $5000 and above that lawyers typically charge for custody cases. Find a Fathers Rights Advocacy group in your area or use one online that's available to you 24/7.

Taking her to court and having days set by the court will make her threats irrelevant and ensure she can't pull any foolishness like getting an attitude over something petty and keep your child from you.

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That's really unfair seeing as she's in a relationship. It's almost as if she wants you to be miserable. Maybe you should go to court for shared custody. You never know when she'll decide to be petty and say she won't allow u to have your son. I think you should do it just to avoid any further issues and before things get heated.

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She's being very unfair and unfortunately it's pretty common. I think you're both going to have to weather out the storm with the ex and it sounds like the new gf is worth it all. It's still a new issue(in her head) but she will get bored with it and likely look for something else to have an issue with. And she may continue to cause problems bc her objective is to ruin your relationships. Eventually she'll have to face it that you're allowed to have a love life. She's being completely inappropriate but avoid an order of protection. The judge is not going to like that bc they'll see it for what it is-a complication in a custody agreement that results in one parent creating unnecessary difficulties in the switch. If she's threatening harm, that's when you file an order of protection but as of now she's just a nuisance. Keep this an open topic with your new gf so she knows you're doing everything in your power and she's feeling supported and comfortable enough to come to you with every piece of harassment. Change the # on your current phone and get a burner phone specially for communication with your ex.

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Can you all sit down and talk about it like adults? If she's mature enough for that and you phrase it like you want to do what is best for your child, maybe she'll be open to it.

man with child dating, what to do?

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