SO & college pt. 2- help:(

-"do you really think you'll be able to make it there with your MI's" 

-"i don't think you'll be able to deal with your depression on your own"

-"you don't understand how hard it's about to get"

-"i don't want you to get in over your head, i think moving off will be too much for you"

-"i'll never have to time to come see you"

-"if you were happy with me why would you leave"

-"i trust you- to an extent"

-"i don't trust you- or anyone when their drunk."

-"I don't know what i would do without you when you leave" 

-"i'm not going to be happy ab you going to parties and stuff down there"

- "if you love me like you say you do and you're happy with me why would you want to leave me"

-"what do you expect me to do while you're gone?"

so last night we had a talk and all of his words listed above didn't change. he said the same things to me and even when i tried to tell him that it makes me anxious and even more unsure- it's almost like that made him do it even more.... how do i firmly stand my ground on this?? is it wrong for me to? do i not love him if i leave him here to go to college? he makes me feel like my desision to go to college is because i don't love him. if i loved him i would stay. he's got this picture of how he wants his life to go- young love- our own house- etc.... but it's a problem when my picture of how i want to live my life doesn't exactly match up with his- ONLY due to college. i just don't know what to do.