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Personally as hard as it might be to hear ( over and over again) I would prefer the truth. This isn't a time to sugar coat things or worry about your feelings. Loosing some weight sounds like it would be beneficial for you, the baby, and also help you be less stressed for future appointments. I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt. Try to see this from a medical standpoint and not to take it personally. Good luck and have a happy and healthy 9 months.
Midwife repeatedly told me I'm overweight...
Listen, I'm aware I could stand to lose some weight. I am by no means saying that I do not acknowledge the fact that being over weight has repercussions, or that it has its own problems with pregnancy. I get that okay.
I'm 5'9 and 260 pounds
But my midwife really upset me today, so much I'm considering taking my prenatal care elsewhere. I had an appointment today and we had a scare recently, I woke up covered in blood so we have gone to several doctors appointments in the last few days, every time they found baby's heart beat with a Doppler, then did an ultrasound because it wasn't steady enough to get a read on beats per minute. All three of the doctors we saw told me my baby is very active and that's why it was so hard to get the heartbeat. My midwife couldn't find the heartbeat with the doppler so she told me "you're overweight so there's more tissue to work around, it makes it difficult to hear the baby." And I said okay, she said "no, but really it could be a bigger issue later on, we need to be able to get a regular read on the baby. Since you're overweight we will have a harder time with that." And so again I told her okay, I understand. Later she said "we're ordering such and such a test, because you're overweight." I just felt like she was obsessed with telling me how fat I am. Like she wouldn't let it go, everything that came up she mentioned my weight with it. I have struggled with eating disorders in the past, I used to go a day or two without eating just so I could binge and not feel bad. I have always struggled with my weight and self image that comes with that. So I guess I'm taking it extra hard. I just feel like she should be able to tell me once and move on.
Any advice?
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Just a little advice every doctor gives is going to treat you the same, especially in your condition your pregnant and it could be very harmful to you and your baby, there's other who will be more blunt than this lady. As a medical provider she had every right to Metion it because a doctor is suppose to explain what they are doing, or can't be doing for certain reasons. Just don't take it so hard on your self when they tell you that it's hard to hear it but they Don't mean to make you feel they are only trying to care for you.
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Yes they should mention it but not repeatedly as when you are pregnant already it is not advised to diet and try and lose weight. My doctor just told me that as a bigger person it is harder to measure fundal height so they would do a series of ultrasounds to check babies growth near end.
This isn't okay. There's literally nothing you can do at this point about it. As long as your eating the best you can and taking care of yourself (which it sounds like you are) then she has no buisness saying that repeatedly. I would have said "no shit, I didn't notice. Let me lose the amount of weight you want me to this moment to convience you more." 😂 I would find a different midwife, you need to feel 100% comfortable and supported through this process. I'm overweight and I've never had a problem with an ultrasound in my life. Most people come with health issues or unhealthy habits, I'm overweight but eat all organic, do my own juicing at home for breakfast, and don't eat red meat. But my skinny friend eats fast food constantly and no one would say that to her. Find someone who is going to support your journey, women of all shapes and sizes struggle with their bodies, Especially when they are pregnant, no one needs to hear that over and over again.
I don't think she was trying to be mean. Midwives don't have the hospital grade heart monitors for labor. So they use regular Dopplers during labor. If they can't find the heartbeat while you are laying flat on your back during a regular visit then imagine how hard it will be during labor. If they can't find a heartbeat or get sporadic readings they will transfer you to a hospital because it then becomes a better safe than sorry situation. Being overweight makes you high risk and I don't know any midwives that take high risk patients. You might be better off with a doctor.
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Not many in the US. Most are out of hospital.
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Midwives deliver in hospitals too.
Im 5'4 263 well now 255 20 weeks prego with 4th always been over weight pregnant my doctor has NEVER TOLD ME IM OVER WEIGHT OR MY WEIGHT IS REASON CANT FIND HEART BEAT, we have had issues finding it few times only because he was so low when thought he was higher. Your midwofe juat may not know how to use the dopplar perfectly. It was wrong of her to word it like that im sorry you went threw this :(
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