non interactive dads?

Help I'm going to have an anxiety attack, I am a stay at home mama.
I live with my boyfriend, his dad and his two brothers and two sisters.
I constantly feel like I am just doing too much.
Some days it doesn't bother me, I like to have a clean kitchen, clothes gotta get put away and yada yada but the moment I slip or don't do everything right his dad throws a fit about how since I've been home all day there shouldn't be dishes in the sink.
My boyfriend works very hard and although I am iniatally very grateful for everything we have it just seems like he just doesn't try as hard at home as he does at work.
He switched to part time at work so he could spend more time with his son and I, but now when he is home all he does is play the damn Xbox.
He doesn't bother to do anything unless I am there in his face telling him to do it.
He waits until I get home to give our son a bath, he won't ever make him lunch when he needs to eat. 
I just don't understand because he is a very   Intelligent young man he knows what he needs to do but instead he doesn't get up and do it.
I don't know if that's just how some men are but I have gotten so fed up.
He won't even leave the house with me get groceries he would rather stay on home but while I'm gone he doesn't clean up.
I don't know how to turn things around I feel like I am a single parent sometimes with an allowance.
Do any of you feel like you have gone through this cycle ?