What do you do when you don't even like your husband anymore?

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I'm at the point where I'm about to give up. I feel like I'm just wasting my effort. I know that if he put some energy into our marriage,  it could be saved, and even be great again, but he refuses to even try. He gets angry every time I try to talk to him about how he makes me feel, and even results to name calling and belittling. He doesn't know how to communicate, and even though I have repeatedly told him what I need emotionally  in this marriage, he doesn't give it to me. I have suggested counseling and even told him I want a divorce, but he doesn't take any of it seriously. He treats me rude, then just expects me to get over it. Idk what to do anymore.

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Sorry to hear you going through this but i would give him an ultimatum  to change his ways or else you filing for a divorce  and be done with it. You deserve to be happy and not miserable and feeling like you is all alone.  Good luck and i hope things work out for you

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I don't know what your religious beliefs are, but I know God can soften even the hardest of hearts. Pray for your husband. I would also encourage you to check out the movie War Room. Similar storyline to what you described. There isn't any marriage (or person) too broken or far gone that God can't restore it. 
 “Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you.”
‭‭Luke‬ ‭6:28‬

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If he doesn't want to try then get a divorce. Both people need to give 100% for a relationship to work. He's already checked out.

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I don't mean to pry, but how long have y'all been married? I also don't want to bad mouth your spouse... But a man should treat his wife with respect, especially if you're taking care of him and trying to make the relationship work. I'm hoping that he agrees to counseling soon so you can work through it.

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You could have written this for me. I'm so sorry you're going through this too... hoping you find a solution.

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I don't think there is any right or wrong advice anyone can give you.. me and my partner went through a similar scenario where we would even break up, move out and get back together and it was like we were stuck in this cycle for almost a year, we were both at breaking point and even discussed to do counselling.. It didn't get to the point where we did do it thankfully but we naturally resolved our issues, I think mostly I just took a back seat and I chose to pick and chose what really needed to be discussed and I chose to try and concentrate on the positives rather than hold on to the negatives. I think firstly you need to ask your self what is making you really unhappy to which you constantly want to talk to him about? Try taking a different approach to the relationship or how you react when he says something hurtful.

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Also sometimes you have to love even when you dont like your spouse

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Tell him that you guys need counseling if you're walking away from this relationship.

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I feel for you in your situation, I believe marriage isl for life unless there is adultery then you're free to leave. I really hope it all works out for you and Im praying for you and your marriage.

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I'm in the same situation and I really feel for you. It's so hard. I've been going to marriage counseling by myself because he refuses to go. I'm really sad about it, but I'm at the point where the next fight we have I'm giving an ultimatum. Either he goes to counseling with me to fix this or I'm leaving. I never thought I would be on the road to divorce with a baby on the way.

What do you do when you don't even like your husband anymore?

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