How do you deal with family pressures?

Question

My husband and I have been married 5 months now and everyone in the family (both sides) are expecting us to be expecting soon. They know we want kids and I don't mind the questions, but SO does at times. It feels like every phone call and visit with family starts off with everyone waiting for a big announcement and slowly declined into an unspoken disappointment when it doesn't come. Personally I'm not keen on telling folks to back off because it's wonderful to be reminded that I have a supportive family but at the same time I feel their disappointment. How do you guys deal with the pressure from family or friends?

Answer

I ignore them but yes I have shut some people up because I was finishing school. I think you should tell them that "don't worry when it happens you will be the first to know", tell them you're taking it day by day, that you aren't planning a family for another few months,   tell them jeez! stop asking haha when are you having more kids of your own? Or tell them what's true: it's not on my plans, it's all about what God plans. For me I would also minimize my socializing with those people.

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We have mostly just done a smile and nod or "soon enough". It gets so frustrating. When you ARE trying and aren't having success. It got even worse when we had a miscarriage and people we didn't really want to tell kept asking. Now I'm pregnant again but only 5.5 weeks so barely anyone knows and I want to sometimes punch people when they ask. I know they mean well but they don't realize how tough that question can be. We have gotten to the point where we sometimes tell people we have had a little trouble when they start asking too much, it usually shuts them up. I can't wait until it's safe to tell everyone and they're off our backs!

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I'm in this situ ...I just want to yell at them 'WE ARE F@CKIN TRYING ITS JUST NOT WORKINGGGGGG'!! 😂🤦🏽‍♀️ but I don't because I can't be mean to anyone so I just joke about I'm too old for that carry on and I'm happy I've got my daughter but inside I'm hurt and wondering why we can't get preg ☹️

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I told them straight out that we are seeking medical help and that if we have news to share we will share it and that their asking adds stress even tho they mean well.

How do you deal with family pressures?

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