Forceful cousins!??

Question

I'm 31 weeks and my older cousin had her son at 26 weeks via emergency c section. We were both due in June. And she is so upset that she didn't get to deliver vaginally so she wants to be In the room with me! My other cousin is a lesbian and says she probably won't have kids herself and wants to be in the room too! 😑 I love them and feel bad but I just wanted my mom and SO in the room with me. I didn't want any other visitors until a day or two after ALSO They've been very helpful. Especially my lesbian cousin! She's so excited for my sons arrival💙 what should I do/tell them?

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Just explain that it's a big special moment to transition from a couple to a family and with the chaos doctors don't want more thank 1 or 2 support people in the room and you've already made your choices

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They want to be there for selfish reasons. They don't want to be there to support YOU they want to be there for themselves. 
I'm getting the same thing with my mom right now. She demands to be in the room. I only want the husband. No one else. She says I owe her because my sister had a c-section with her two.

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A lot of hospitals seem to have rules for how many people are allowed in the room, so they most likely won't be allowed anyway! Delivery rooms aren't huge, and the delivery team won't want a huge family gathering in there if there's an emergency! In the UK, I think a maximum of 2 people are allowed in the room. Here in India, the grandmother-to-be allowed to be there, and more recently, the father, but I think that's it.

I would double check with the hospital, and if that's the case, then they definitely cannot be there! (Might be worth hinting to the hospital staff that a 2 person limit would be something you're quite happy with!)

But, at the end of the day, you are well within your right to tell them that no, it's just you, your partner and your mum, and that's it! If they want to see a birth, there's plenty of 'one born every minute' videos on YouTube!

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This was a huge problem with my first born. It got so chaotic that my family and friends were fighting about who was going to be in the room. So what I did was explain to my delivery nurses the situation and told them who I wanted in the room.  They didn't let anyone who was there for me walk past the waiting room and eventually told everyone they could all go home because i wasn't having visitors until the next day. I don't think your situation has to be that extreme lol but when all else fails you can count on the nurses. Also My hospital only allowed 2 people with me for a normal delivery and 1 person for a csection. Your hospital could be different though. And my nurses were cool and said they would allow as many people as I wanted until push time. But honestly once those contractions got strong enough I really didn't care to have anyone but my nurse with me anyway lol.

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