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Question

I'm writing here because I don't know who to talk to. I'm 10 weeks pregnant and moved in with my boyfriend at the beginning of this month. His best friend from childhood has moved in with us from the start and mind you I don't care for the guy BUT I'm starting to feel I'm the 3rd wheeler. As I'm writing this they are out in the living room eating wings watching a movie and I'm in our bedroom as every Single night since we moved in. Last weekend I told him I felt like this guy was invading our privacy I missed my boyfriend and he agreed to spend more time with me. Well yeah..I have paid all the bills since we moved in bc he has a new job as well as all the expenses including those freaking wings thinking we would have a little date together. Now I just get comments of I don't find you attractive just cute because of your belly and so fourth yall this is my second baby I'm divorced and I'm soooo freaking scared of failing again. What am I doing wrong?

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You have to make your own decisions but I'm seeing red flags all over this one 😳

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I'm sorry. I must ask, how old are these men? They sound like immature children. You pay the bills? Doesn't matter, get him out of your house if he's making you uncomfortable. And I'd be very unhappy with the asshole that is your bf saying that he doesn't find you cute anymore. Again, are we 12?! Dude, grow up already! You can clearly pay for your own way. Why have two freeloaders??

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This is what you do. Go out there and grab a plate of wings and watch the movie with them.

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If you are paying the bills I would ask the guy to leave. You don't need this extra stress in your life. And your boyfriends comment about you just being cute is nonsense ! He has someone who loves and support him and he still say some shit like that ? I'm sorry you are going thru this but I see a red flag. You are not doing anything wrong but your bf has to learn that once you are in a relationship that person becomes your priority and he's not putting you first nor supporting you and your baby ! Have a real talk to him about his childish ways and see if there's any improvements 😬 best of luck !

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First please understand you are not failing in any way or doing anything wrong! 
A month or so ago before I found out I was pregnant, my husband and I had a friend of his staying with us. He would spend most of his time freeloading and being generally very unproductive while we were at work. When my husband would get home they would be nearly inseparable, I felt ignored even when included in conversations and they would be up chatting or gaming hours after I'd gone to bed. Between work and this I hardly spent time with my own husband and even when I asked him about it nothing changed. Eventually I became so tired of it all I approached my husband in tears asking for his friend to leave as the stress on myself and our relationship was becoming to much. He finally agreed to talk his friend into leaving and he was out within the month. Similarly to your situation I have the higher income and was paying most of the bills. I also felt like I was doing something wrong that he was not hearing my plee for more time together and I was being selfish for not wanting him to spend time with his friend.
However, I am now convinced that when someone truly cares for you and respects you, they will hear you out, and avoid puting you in those situations that cause you pain or stress. If they love you sincerely they will prioritize you and your wellbeing as you would theirs.
His choices are his own and if he chooses to continue in a manor that causes you stress and pain that is NO fault of your own. I only hope that your situation improves and you can enjoy this wonderful journey together.

Ps sorry for such a long reply

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