am I the only woman that has a hard time getting their man on the same page!!!!

After 2.5 years of trying I keep getting down to my dh and I don't bd enough!!!
I'm getting to the point where I feel like it's his fault!!! Today is a super fertile day and my husband masterbated in the shower and said it's cuz I was sleeping and he didn't want to wake me...... it really pissed me off made me feel unloved and sad cuz I feel like there's not point tonight cuz he already let the good stuff go down the drain.... I'm getting so frustrated!!! Am I crazy? I feel like everyone else's men really put fourth effort and mine doesn't