Friendship Issues - Ugh some girls!!!! 🙅🙅🙅
Ugh, I'm sorry I have to rant. One of my oldest girlfriends has also been the most difficult. She's deeply insecure, jealous, competitive, scheming and a social climber. We were both at an international school growing up and were the only two from the same State in the US. That experience bonded us. I'm not saying I'm any better than her but I was always more sophisticated - well read, well spoken, well mannered, well dressed <had the best clothes/bags/shoes (back in the days when my parents used to buy them for me)>, traveled extensively, educated, spoke diff languages, connected in the arts etc and society and film world. I was skinnier. Had tons of friends. Was invited to the best parties / threw massive parties in rented castles or villas. And had boyfriends who were well known in our circles. I got along well with her guy friends and I hooked up with a few of them in college, which she de-facebooked me for - later saying any and all guy friends of hers are potential husbands for her and so off limits to me. Anyway, over the years I noticed she would copy me on literally everything. Like she would even name her dog the same name. The way she dresses, the bags she wore, she would go to all of my beauty people and get the same exact things done. I felt like I had a clone. At the same time she was so competitive and I was not allowed to speak to any of her friends. That was her rule - if I broke it she would go batshit. She had to be the center of attention or she would go nuts. She saw me as a threat to that so I wasn't allowed to join any of her social engagements. While I enduldged her insecurities, I never stooped down them. I invited her along to things I hosted, always introduced her to people in my life. Anyway, as time went on and we got older. Things just got worse and worse. She would flirt with / throw herself at my boyfriends, say horrible things behind my back to them and my friends, throw massive dramas. I made myself available to her in her hard times which was never reciprocated. I sat with her in the hospital. Drove her to the airport, I mean everything you could do for someone - I was whole heartedly there. On her end, she was more concerned with insignificant social agendas and why she wasn't included in x,y,z and get furious with me if I left her out of anything. It's like all she would ever call me for. When my life was shit, she was MIA. Also, she started sleeping with married men and doing all sorts of crazy things that I thought were just really f'd up. Sooo with maturity, I quickly realized I didn't want someone like that in my life so I went my own way hoping she'd just go away. Nope! She's invited herself along my best friends holiday this weekend! Flew half way across the country to be there with my friends. Found out from my friend today who wasn't expecting to see her there and just found this soooo weird and soooo off! Like wtf - I wasn't allowed to talk to any of your friends or go to any of your events for over 10 years - was never even invited to birthdays .... and you're on holiday with my best friends? She's trying so hard to get on good with them - get into my circle. Does she not know her place? I haven't spoken to her in two years! Would love to tell her .. Follow your own "rules" you set and go on holiday with your own friends. The only reason I'm not there is bc they are somewhere tropical with Zica and as I'm trying to get pregnant I decided to pass this year. So glad I made the choice to cut her out but this clone is now trying to secure a place in my friendship group and its totally weirding me out. I realize this sounds very Gossip Girl... Sorry... My life was charmed growing up - now hard working working girl working my a** off to make it in my industry and have been humbled hard by life.
Comment
Add Comment
Let's Glow!
Achieve your health goals from period to parenting.
