I've noticed a lot of women on here base self respect on dressing modestly...

My personal thoughts experiences- I have struggled off and on since puberty with body dysmorphia. Part of the reason I quit sports was because of the discomfort of wearing less clothing, I stopped going swimming and to the beach so I didn't have to wear a bathing suit because I felt embarrassed of my body, I tried so hard to find modest clothing that covered my body because I was ashamed of my body and I felt embarrassed of it. I hated certain parts of myself and for me dressing modestly was a way to restrain my body so the parts I didn't like weren't seen. When I got older I started experimenting more with clothing and found that sometimes wearing more revealing or clothing considered sexy gave me a little more confidence, once I pushed myself to feel ok with displaying parts of me I was embarrassed by I became more comfortable with my body and gained more respect for myself. Now today I am able to wear whatever I feel comfortable in and whatever makes me happy, when I'm happy with how I look or happy with how I feel that is when I find I have the most respect for myself. I dress for me, myself, & I and that can be in as little or as much as I choose and when I am dressing for me and only me and not abided to standards of modesty or standards of sexualization, that is when I respect myself the most. 

Edit: in addition to this I don't believe that clothing determines ones self respect, my story is about be discovering respect for myself realizing that being comfortable in my body no matter what I choose to wear and the reason I choose to wear is for me is personally where my respect for myself I feel comes from