easing the pain after a miscarriage

Friday I noticed minimal pink bleeding. Doc said pink or brown is fine. Saturday I was having cramping with on and off brown or red bleeding. Went to the ER, said it seems ok, cervix closed, but I had a bladder infection which led to the cramping pain. Brown spotted for two days and today woke up bleeding bright red, a LOT of it, and ended up in the ER with a miscarriage. I know it's nothing I did wrong, but my heart hurts. Badly. How did you cope after your miscarriage? What can I do to ease the emotional pain I am going through? And how long did it take for you to get pregnant again? Im looking for some inspirational stories to help brighten my dull day.