anyone have tips on "not trying" ?

Question

We are moving into our 9th month trying to conceive. I am getting tired of the heartbreak every month when AF comes. Lots of people say when you stop trying it will happen. I understand less stress ect but how do you stop trying for something you want so badly. After this month I may try not charting , no aps , no OPks ect but I know I'll be counting days in my head and still wanting to bd at the right time. 
I am an all or nothing person . I work hard towards my goals . I'm finding it really hard to be patient. We are young and healthy, it just feels like it's taking forever. I know it's not been long compared to others but so far the doctors haven't found any fertility issues. 
A new nephew was born last week and we found out another sister in law is 7 weeks pregnant, I was really hoping this would be our month. 
Baby dust to everyone going through the same wait, hopefully I can become more positive and keep my head up... it's just getting harder each month

Answer

I still timed it without OPKs as well. It was getting too stressful but I knew the approximate time to try so we still did hit the fertile window. I didn't have any pregnancy tests in the house so I wasn't testing days before my missed period and being disappointed every time I got a negative, then retesting because I thought I was too early, and then being disappointed when my period came. I bought a test on my way to work once I had missed my period and it was positive the first month I wasn't "trying". If my period came, then I would only be disappointed that one day, move on, and try again the next month! Good luck!

anyone have tips on "not trying" ?

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