A difficult and lonely road

Christi
TTC is lonely. It's the hardest road I've ever walked, and besides my partner, I walk it alone. When you're TTC, you don't want to tell friends and family you're trying, because if you're not pregnant within a couple months the questions and comments start. "Not pregnant yet? I thought you guys were trying." "You must not be trying hard enough. My cousin got pregnant her first month of trying." "Just stop trying. That's when it'll happen." And the worst, "Maybe you're not meant to get pregnant. Have you thought about adoption?" So you keep it secret. You just walk the road alone, nobody to call when you're crying because AF showed her ugly face 3 days early, but you were so sure this was your month. No one to talk to when you get your 5th negative test this month, but AF is still 2 days late. No shoulder to cry on when you finally get a positive test, only to be told that it's a chemical pregnancy and to try again next month. And for those of us that struggle for months or even years without a successful pregnancy, the road is even more lonely. Seeing friends and family have children is like a dagger to the heart, but we have to be happy for them. We have to congratulate them and go to their baby showers and see how thrilled they are, all while it's killing us inside. We put on a brave face, smile even though we feel like crying, then go home and take yet another test, praying that we will finally get to see those two pink lines for ourselves.