Overbearing grandparents?

Question

I was wondering how involved the grandparents are in your LOs lives. I see my parents usually every other weekend but they live farther away so they will be longer visits, we text/ call occasionally but usually just to set up when we will be seeing each other next. 
On the other hand my MIL calls/ texts me several times per day and stops by about 5 times per week for shorter periods of time and it's always insisting on "alone time" with LO. I find this weird and really overstepping boundaries.
What is your experiences with grandparents and what would you say is normal?

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My mother in law and father in law both come over often, my fil actually watches my son twice a week when I am at work. He will come over extra times as well. They both know I don't "entertain" them, but I've taken it upon myself that when they are there, I get something done or they do something for me.... I will tell them that I will shower or fold or wash dishes etc when they play with him.  Sometimes I will run to target to pick somethings up when they are there.

Once I started telling people that I would do these things it got easier because it's so much easier doing chores not worrying about him or where he is or if he's crying etc... now I miss them when they don't come over a few times a week!!!!

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I wish we had more distance.   I'm the kind of person that calls and texts my parents almost everyday and share too much of what's going on in my life.   I don't have a lot of friends and really wish I didn't do this.   So I, in a way, invite them to be more involved than what I would prefer.  They aren't overbearing but tell me their opinion- which is opposite of what I am doing.  I actually wish my husbands family was here.

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Tell her you aren't ready to be away from your baby just yet... And what does she need to be alone with them for? It would be a red flag if she was a man, and a no lol... I don't understand how you would want company over 5x a week. So hard to have things clean and entertain... I hate having people over seeing my fail attempts to clean the kitchen more than halfway. I wouldn't be having it really. Good luck to you.

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My parents watch my kids 3 days a week while i work. They live half an hour away. My MIL lives six miles away and this is her first biological grandchild. She seldom visits. Also I wouldn't leave her alone with him. She's younger than my parents but her health and hygiene isn't good.

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My MIL comes over occasionally but I honestly see more of my own mother. She is super involved. She picks her up from the sitters house 3 nights a week because of both mine and my husbands work schedules and she's usually our go to person if we need a sitter. But she's never insisting on more time or dropping by unannounced. I think dropping over 5 times a week is a bit excessive. You can be involved but holy hell, sometimes it's nice to have an empty house.

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My mom is super involved in my sons life but I wouldn't describe it as overbearing. She watches him while I'm at work a few evenings a week. She also comes and visits on my days off or we go to her. The only thing that drives me nuts is when she says I should do this or that differently. She's offered to watch him overnight on the weekends when she's not working and has offered to take him so my SO and I could go out. I've never let him stay overnight anywhere yet, it'll be probably a few more months before I let that happen. I've also only had her watch him a handful of time when I wasn't working. But I either had doctors appointments/my SO and I went to dinner and that was it. My SO's parents aren't that involved at all. They visit maybe once a week if that or my SO takes him there. But my son barely knows them and they constantly ask if he can spend the night... no freaking way. I think when it comes to overbearing you just have to put your foot down

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My mom will watch the baby any time I need, which unfortunately being pregnant and a full time student she watches him maybe 2 days out of the week so I can catch up with homework for the week. She calls and texts me several times a day and asks how he's doing and if I'll send her pics or how his day at early headstart went. I love that she loves helping and checks on him because she misses him or just wants to see if he's doing okay. If I have appointments and I can't pick him up from headstart she picks him up for me or has her husband and they watch him until I can get him. She is always buying him stuff even when he doesn't need it because he's a spoiled little dude. I love she's so involved and supportive.

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