Very Long Rant Mostly About my In-laws.

First of all, my father in law is very disrespectful towards women, especially his wife. Every time an attractive woman walks by, or he sees one on tv, he always tells us how hot he thinks she is. My favorite line is always "She's got some nice buns." Idk, it just disgusts me. Maybe that's just me. I just think it's disrespectful to not only the woman he's making the comments about, but especially towards his wife.

Second of all, they're trying to take over my baby shower. My mom is planning it. I'm very close with my mom, & we think a lot alike. At first, they just offered to help pay for catering. That was fine, & very generous. We chose a caterer, & my father in law went ballistic! Freaking out because he doesn't like their food. Uh, this just in, but my husband is the only man coming to the baby shower, so it doesn't matter what you want to eat. That was the first thing that pissed me off about the shower.

Second thing that pissed me off about the shower is that both of them (my mother & father in law) are insisting we invite all these people that neither me or my husband know. They also tried to do that for our wedding. Which didn't work, so I'm not sure why they're trying again. It's not just random family members we don't know or anything like that. They're telling me I HAVE to invite my mother in law's best friend. WHY? Is she having the baby? Is my mother in law having the baby? No. I am. MY best friend will be there.

Usually I just hold my tongue & my husband tells them that it's not about them & we're not doing what they think we need to do, etc. But, they don't listen to him. He never really stood up to them before he started dating me. Which I think makes them hate me, but idc. So they never take him seriously. He's always just done whatever they tell him to do, so they think that's what's gonna happen now.

Wen we lived with them, I overheard my husband arguing with his father. His dad said "You don't have to buy her things & help her pay rent just because she's giving you pussy." First of all, gross. Second of all, I was the only one expected to pay rent while we lived there. Which, I'm not saying I shouldn't have had to. But I don't think it's fair that my husband wasn't expected to pay anything. I couldn't give him all the rent at one time because I simply didn't make enough, so my husband helped me out. We were both working, & we both lived there, so he offered to help. He didn't think it was fair either. Anywho, the argument went on, & my husband (just boyfriend at this time, btw) said "I'm not helping her out because we're having sex. I'm helping her out because I love her. You're being unreasonable." His dad says "You don't know what love is yet. Don't settle down already. You need to go out & meet other women & have fun with them. Hang out with your friends. Why do you need to be in a serious relationship so young?" Which, we were 18. So yes, young. We lost our virginities to each other. We had been best friends for 3 years before we started dating. But, he went to basic training for the army for 6 months at the beginning of our relationship. We stayed faithful to each other, & I waited for him. Which was something that no one else was willing to do for him. That was already mature of us. It made our relationship strong, & made us realize we never wanted to be apart. 

I didn't hear the rest of that argument. But, I did overhear them on the phone all the time talking shit. "I don't see Liz ever going to college." "She never helps out around the house" which was a huge lie, btw. I'm the only one that ever did anything, but that's beside the point.

Here's the worst part: I don't talk to my father & stepmother. I haven't for about 4 years now. It's a long story. Just to sum it up a little, my mom & dad had me. They never got married. They hated each other. They split up when I was about 2. I went to live with my dad because my mom wasn't in a stable situation, & they thought it would be best for me. He married my step mom, & I hated her from the beginning. Not because I thought she was the reason the split up or anything like that. Just because she's a horrible person. They had my sister when I was 3 & a half. Then my mom married my stepdad. They had my brother when I was 8. Basically my sister was the golden child & could do no wrong, & I was a terrible person & should be locked up in a tower. They treated us completely differently. I graduated high school (which all 4 of my parents did not accomplish), & I moved in with my mom. My dad hit me because I was leaving. He punched me in my legs & left bruises. I was still talking to them that Christmas, but then things got ugly. I told them I was dating Andy (my now husband). My dad didn't want to meet him or have anything to do with him. My stepmom grilled me. "Have you had sex?" "Do you love him?" "Have you met his parents?" Yes, to all of those, btw. "You're gonna get knocked up just like your mother. He doesn't love you, he's just using you. You guys won't last & you'll never get married." Then I went to my mom, & I told her I need birth control. Well, I was still on my dad's insurance. So when I went to the doctor & they gave me the prescription, it automatically went to Walgreens & then Walgreens called my dad's house to tell them they had a prescription waiting for me. My stepmom knew right away that it was birth control & freaked out. Sex has just been like the worst thing you could ever do in their opinion. Basically it just turned into a huge fight & we stopped talking. I cut them out.

Fast forward to me living with Andy & his parents. His mom went on Facebook & friended my dad & stepmom & told them literally everything she knew about me. That I was living with them, where I was working, the hours I was working, etc. Andy yelled at her & told her it wasn't her place & that wasn't information I wanted them to have. She promised she wouldn't talk to them anymore. The lie detector test determined, THAT WAS A LIE. She continued to tell them everything. My dad started putting things directly in the mailbox for me (illegal), he would leave notes for me on the things I put on hold at the library, & mysteriously show up at the places I was at. So we discussed it, & Andy & I moved in with my mom. Where we were both expected to pay rent & have a job.

We got engaged when we were 20. Got married when we were 21. Moved into our own place. & now we're expecting a baby boy. We're 22. Which like I said before, yeah, young, but not stupid. But now maybe it's my hormones, but I just can't hold my tongue anymore when it comes to his parents. I've just been avoiding them at all costs because I don't want to ruin Andy's relationship with them. I want my child to have loving grandparents in his life. & they did change when they found out I was pregnant. They started pretending they loved me. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Make up your mind, people. Idk. 

Am I being crazy? Should I hold my tongue or speak my mind? Ugh. Very sorry for the rant. I was just hoping for an outsider's opinion, lol.