Being childfree by choice

🙋‍♂️ pros: no kid. Cons: nil. Tbh it's not really a huge thing for some people. Doesn't need a whole lot reasoning, just decided I didn't want them for now. Its honestly just like any other lifestyle choice to me. Like if I'm making a decision and decide, I'll take this one because I like the look of it better and don't have to necessarily have any other reason- well it's basically the same thing. Just do not want. 

Pros:More money. Don't have the responsibility of raising another person. Don't have to deal with those "perfect-parent" types on school premise. Don't have to share chocolate/sweets. Don't feel bad about splurging on myself. Cheaper living. Cons:I'm surprisingly good with kids and run back and fourth between adopting or not. The world would be blessed to hold the presence of "mini me" 💁 w/o having a kid, I'm essentially making the world a worse off place. 

no rugrats no regrets 🤘

Pros: Freedom, no stretch marks, no painful child birth, no 9 months of pregnancy etc Cons: N/A.To me kids aren't a big deal and aren't something I ever want.

I never wanted kids. I actually tried to get my tubes tied when I was in my 20's. I wanted to be a career woman, I never wanted to get married either. Then I met my husband and he totally changed my mind. I was always scared I'd be a bad mom but once I met him I knew he'd be a good dad. We got married when I was 32 had our first when I was 34 and our second just a few months ago at 35. I realized that it is possible to have kids and a career, especially when you have an amazing spouse!! 

The pros and cons are a bit bias since some of you haven't had kids. Which IS your choice. But, here are some pros and cons from someone who is a mother:Pros to not having kids: more freedom. More sleep. No worrying. Not having to raise someone to be a good person. No diapers.Cons to not having kids: you miss out on a lot by not having kids. The unconditional love. The laughs. The playing. Getting to raise them and watch them grow. Having a piece of you and the person you love mixed into a wonderful little being. Endless cuddles. Endless love. Family memories you make with your children. You're never bored. And they enrich your life.Yes, there pros to not having kids, but don't post as if you know that there are 0 cons. Because unless you're a parent, you don't get it, and you cannot get it. It's one of those things you have to experience to have an actual opinion.Childbirth is actually magical, not terrible. Stretch marks already paint everyone's bodies. But kids change your life and it's always in a good way. It's your decision to not have kids, but don't act like it makes you better or like you know that having kids would suck and there's no reason to at least consider it.No judgement, but seriously. Being a mother is amazing. No reason to pretend it's not.

I've always wanted kids, I just see how much joy people get out of watching their kids grow up/ accomplish things. And I want to feel the love that I know people have for their children. I know quite a few people, who I believe would have been excellent parents, but chose not to have kids because they just didn't want to. I complete respect that decisions, no judgement. Children are very expensive and have a huge impact on your freedom. Your life is no longer your life after you have kids, your life revolves around them and what they need. I'm willing and want to make that sacrifice, but I don't blame anyone who doesn't. 

My aunt, who's now in her early sixties, never wanted kids! She married her now husband when she was in her twenties. Soon after the marriage he got diagnosed with two different types of cancer, meaning long hospital stays, chemo, surgery, etc. For all these years my aunt was the one who had to go to work and bring money home. Kids weren't even considered at that time, as my uncle's health was first priority. About ten years later my aunt's uterus had to be removed due to medical reasons. And that's about when I came along. I've always been very close with both my aunt and uncle. Before I started school I'd spend several days a week at their house. I always wondered why they never had children. My aunt said it probably would have been nice but it is nothing they ever really really wanted because there were a hundred other things that had to be taken care of and had first priority. She doesn't regret her decision of never becoming a mother. I hate that today's society criticize those women. You don't know their story, their motives and goals in life. Be open minded and respectful ✌🏼

Pros: I can live my life with no interference of screeching howler monkeys. Cons: None. Minus being bingoed aka the "you will change your mind" etc lines. When I get those lines I just want to say "Already did. It ain't changing again." 

I'm in between. I don't want children because i already feel old and unaccomplished. I want to travel, and enjoy the world more before I get pegged down with children to care for. At the same time, I am almost 30 and I feel my clock ticking. Sometimes kids sound like a great idea and sometimes they sound like a pain in the butt. Everything changes when you have kids and I'm too selfish to grow up. I don't really care for what my family and husbands family think, they wanted me to have kids three years ago, I was not ready. Although I don't really want to, my husband and I decided to start trying. He wants some, especially after my sisters baby was born(little sister😅) he loves that kid, I do too. I really love babies as long as I can give them back.  Now Anyhow, I am excited and scared and every month I am confused. I pray for a baby, but I am also so relieved when I get my period! I'm awful I know, but getting pregnant scares me. It will be like finally growing up, and I like being carefree and immature. Yet, I do want to have kids to raise while I'm young and not when I'm old and too tired to play with them! So there you have it, I am very confused. Right now we are leaving it up to luck 😊