rant, husband is getting to me

My husband is really irritating me! We have a 17 month old and a baby on the way. He questions every little thing. On days I don't work he asks what time she woke up what time she ate breakfast what time she ate lunch, when's the last time I changed her diaper. Just now she fell and started crying while he was upstairs he yells down to me and asks what happened I told him she fell he's asking me how and what did she bang? I feel like he doesn't think I am fit to be a mother.  I've never given him any reason to think that of me. I feel like he wanted kids for himself and I'm just the incubator. I didn't see how she hurt herself so I lied because if I told him I didn't see it he would have given me the whole lecture on how I should have been watching her blah blah blah. All because I turn my back for one second which is all it takes.  Tomorrow is his dads birthday and he HAS to go over there to give him a card because he already took him out this past weekend for his bday. We're going on a family camping trip this weekend so I asked can't you wait until the weekend he says no tomorrow is his birthday and I want to give it to him tomorrow. His mother is just as bad with my daughter. Tries to be her mommy whenever she's around. Again, I feel like I had my daughter so he could have his kids and his mom could have her grandchildren that's she's always longed for.  Ugh! Im probably just hormonal but I feel like this is a little deeper than being hormonal 😫