Am I Broken?? 😫😔

Question

Hi guys! 
I'm a little embarrassed but, i have to ask.

I've been sexually active since I was 17 (I'm 23 now) and I've masturbated since I was an early teen. But, I don't know and/or don't think I have ever had an orgasm.

How do I know? 
From everything I've heard/read women say "you'll just know".

I've pushed myself to masturbate until my toes curled and my head was spinning, but then I get bored. No amazing relief, no sleepy feeling or jitters. Nothing. Sex can feel absolutely Amazing sometimes but no matter how into it I am, I never get any relief or amazing feeling or anything. When we're done I'm either frustrated from still being horny or just carry on like nothing happened.

I was abused as a child, and I wonder if that has anything to do with it, but does that mean I will Never be able to experience this thing SO many people rant and rave about??

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So depending on your clitorous, it more difficult for woman to orgasm then others. The ferther away from you body the clit is the harder is to climax. I personally always have a hard time orgasming and I got a vibrator to help with that. I suggest buying this one it's  a tad pricy but well worth it!! Also a larrrrge bodywand seems to do the trick

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Maybe deep down inside (working with the past abuse trauma) your subconscious self refuses to allow you pleasure until you can address the trauma and your feelings at the time. Because a memory can put you right back in that place, with all those feelings. And you now need to consciously move forward. Sometimes all it takes is acknowledgment of the trauma. Remember the past cannot hurt you anymore, you have the birth-given right to experience and learn in this life. Remember you chose to come here for a reason.

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Your not broken. I go through the same thing as well. I have been active since 15 and so far only experience it once in my whole life I'm 25 now. I'm not sure if it's due to the abuse you had to go through or not, but it might just take you longer. Basically the guy gonna have to really work. I learned the best trick is to completely empty your mind to the pleasure and go in. It took my bf a whole night but it was worth it in the end for the both of us. Some girls just don't get that feeling like other. I just learned to live with it and enjoy the fun of sex.

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I don't think you're broken, just unfortunate. 
As someone said earlier a percentage of woman can't orgasm. I was one of those until I met my husband. 
I was In a relationship for 25 years and in don't remember having an orgasm in all that timeouts don't masturbate so didn't know what to expect. 
I met my hubby after separating from my ex and boy did things change. 
The first time we made love I orgasmed and passed out. 
He freaked out as I stopped breathing he pulls out of me and tried to get me to breath, even slapped my face until eventually I took a deep breath and came round.

That now happens every time we make love, several times before he cums himself. 
I have a theory that every woman can orgasm in th right circumstances. I have no evidence of this, it's just a feeling I have after 25 years of non orgasmic sex

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Girls have about 5 different areas where they can orgasm! I know 3; clit, g spot and bum.

So maybe try another area if it isn't working for you?
I can only orgasm in certain places

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I have read that a significant enough number of women just aren't able to orgasm

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You're not alone. I'm 30 and I keep waiting for that "feeling". Sex is pleasurable and there are times I don't want it to stop, but I just never reach that point. I haven't said this to any of my partners and I just go with the flow. It's frustrating at times because you read/hear about this magical moment and you have this thought in your head of what it's supposed to be, and you keep waiting for the moment, but it never happens.

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I was also sexual abused by my stepfather for about seven years and the same thing happens to me.  I have never orgasmed and I don't know if it has anything to do with that or not but yeah - if someone has an answer, please let me know if it is related since I do suffer emotional PTSD from the situation.  I always found it weird that I haven't even though I've come close.

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Just relax your focusing on it so much your probably giving yourself performance anxiety. Try lots of clitoral stimulation before and during sex.

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So I was the same way! I didn't have my first orgasm until I was into my 20s. The biggest problem is I was trying to masturbate the "normal" ways hands, vibs, etc. Until one day I googled other ways and tried grinding on a pillow! It took awhile the first few times but you can feel the pressure building up and just keep going and it should work!

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