Should I go to her hen do/bachelorette party?

Question

I have a group of friends who I don't really see very often anymore. One of them is having her hen do next weekend and it's costing a fortune. I'm on maternity pay and it just seems to be money after money. One of the girls asked for some money as she is driving but it seemed a lot for the amount of miles we are doing so I said I might get my OH to take me. They then questioned why etc and I said if I'm honest it is costing a lot of money which I don't have. I said it's her day and I'll do it but it's just a struggle.  She then said to me basically to shut up and not moan to her as it's ruining her day, I said I didn't want that which is why I said I'll do it but I would rather be honest as to why I'm finding it hard. She said she would rather I just moaned to the other girls about her, I then said I would not be a true friend if I just bitched behind her back, like the other girls. But she carried on saying that's what she would rather do. This weekend will cost me the best part of £200.. and I feel like they just want me there for the sake of it. If she had said I know it's a lot but I really want you there it would have made me feel better. I feel like flaking and just risk losing the friendship as it has been strained for a long time anyway.. one of them has never seen my 5 month old boy and the girl who's hen do it is has only seen him twice and that was only because she came to collect the £70 for the hotel which I paid. What would you do? Am I being unreasonable?

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I wouldn't go,  it sounds like you don't even really want to why spend money the money then, some friendships are meant to die out anyway I'm sorry but this sounds like one of them

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Screw them. Not true friends if they haven't even been around since you've had your baby. Don't extend your life for others if they can't seem to do it for you. Also if she wants to grow balls and tell you to basically shut up, she can deal with the consequences of being a bitch.

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If I were you I wouldn't go. She sounds horrible. Not a true friend at all

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Don't go. Why put yourself in a financial bind if you don't have to?
They don't care about you because they know the money is tight and still don't care.

Them not seeing the baby is irrelevant.

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You are being reasonable. I feel like a true friend would care about your feelings. I say, do what makes you feel the best.

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I wouldn't go.
If you don't have the money, you don't.
they don't sound like real friends anyway.

Should I go to her hen do/bachelorette party?

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