I've been with my hubby 13 years nearly. We have a 10 year old son, 17w2 with baby 2. He is one of two kids, has a sister 2 years older. We have always lived 10-45 mins from her... they grew up rough. Alcoholic mother who passed in 2009. Dad and stepmom moved 9 hours away to retire two years back. Now since meeting me my hubby has flourished. Good job, class 1 license, nice new SUV, and we bought our first home 2 years ago this August. Just some background! Well, his sister has 3 daughters 17, 10, and 9. I have honestly seen my nieces maybe 2 times in two years! We always offer rides to come see us she doesn't drive, and we offer to have BBqs go swimming anything to have a family get together. Well two years ago she decided to switch teams, she now dates women. No problem for us, maybe a culture shock to the girls but that's something they as a family would need to work through. So in the time we bought our home she has not made an effort once to come see us. My son has seen her once since Christmas. We had plans for them to come out today for a BBQ and see our home. I really thought she should show some pride as a big sister that her little bro has done so well for himself. Well I held doubts she would come so I bought burgers and hotdogs because then we don't have to waste food if and when she didn't come. Sure as shit she text late last night saying her youngest has a cold. It pissed me right off... like seriously I see photos of her traveling hours away every weekend to do hikes and walks and photo shoots she's a "model" one of those ones that doesn't get paid for anything... now yeah we are 45 mins away but that's nothing. Then this afternoon I see photos of her and her "sick" daughter all dressed up and make up to the 9's getting ready for an impromptu photo shoot. She captions this as what sick kids do with their free time... it made me sick to my stomach!! So I tell my hubby he needs to tell her enough is enough and that this hurts him. Well he is way too nice for his own good. He comments " Aww, Hope she gets better soon. We need to get yous out here some time." WTF!! How does that express hurt, disappointment?!? He made me so mad. There is no way for this "sister" to even know it's hurting him. He says why should I make her feel bad. I said it doesn't just affect you it hurts us all. Your kid has 3 cousins he doesn't even know and they live a hop skip and jump away. My parents live 10 mins from them and we are always offering to come visit but she always and I mean always has plans to do some pride event or some "gig". She didn't have her kids for Christmas or even Easter. We had to leave our gifts on the back porch!! I don't even want her showing her face here when baby is born just because after 10 years we had our miricle baby. Am I being crazy?!? Ugh... I love my little fam and I'm tired of this crap.