My husband and I are going on 5 years, married for 1. We have great communication, we're best friends, but there's a serious lack of sex drive on both our parts. We have a talk about it at least every other month b/c I freak out but our sex life is still dwindling down. It's about 1-2 times a month and that's only b/c of our "talks." It just doesn't feel like passion and lust, it's feel like obligation. I just don't know how this happened. Granted we both smoke weed, and it definitely plays a part making me lazy but for him it makes everything better. But for us not to have that drive at all... the excuses we make... tired being the main one... we'll we have always been busy and we have always been tired. We just don't make time nor care to. It's a chore, we may or may not get to. What should we do?