am I in the wrong for being upset?

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* warning: long! *I'm 20 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I'm having problems with the father. Let me start off with giving some background. he's 21 and has a full time job getting paid 15 dollars an hour. I'm 17 with a part time job making only minimum wage. I can only afford to make my car payment and insurance for the month with both my paychecks. He also has a car payment and a bike payment (which he won't sell but doesn't use) but has good money left over. He used to have his own place but decided to move out to save 500 dollars a month to help pay for the baby. He now lives with me and my family. I asked him last night to pay one doctor bill (an OB bill) because I can't pay it and it needs to pay. He then told me no because he thinks it's stupid that we go to the doctors monthly for this baby. I told him I will continue to go to the doctors because I want the best care for my daughter. Then he said " well if you wanna go to the doctor you can pay the doctor bills." Following with "I'm not even sure if this is my baby". Let me just say that I have been 100% loyal our whole relationship and have never given him a reason not to trust me. After he said that we got into a bigger fight and he started dissing my mother, who used to be his boss and has known for 4 years. (Some background info, my mom is on a leave due to some health issues she's having and only makes a percentage of her check) he said that my parents should stop being shitty parents and pay my car bill and insurance when they can barely afford it. And that my mom should buck up and go to work. He then told me that I was after him for his money and that I shouldn't be asking him to pay bills for the baby. Am I in the wrong for being upset and asking him to pay bills?

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Leave him. He's obviously not ready for a baby and isn't worth your time if he doesn't even care enough for the health of the baby.

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Bless your heart honey... the fact that you're even asking are you wrong concerns me...he's 21 dating a 17 year old... you'd think he would have a little more sense than you but I guess not. He laid down and made a baby and now it's time for him to stand up like a man and handle his responsibility. He shouldn't be living with your parents especially if he's going to disrespect them and talk about them. He shouldn't want you to struggle. Furthermore I'd give him a DNA test so that won't ever be questioned again. I pray that you go on to school establish a career for you and your baby and realize that you deserve better than what he is showing you. God bless

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You are absolutely right for being upset. He should help pay for your doctors visits, it's his baby too.

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He should be helping you pay for the doctors appointments it's his baby too!

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Apply for Medicaid to help with your health care.
Kick his ass out

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You are 100% justified in being upset. It's HIS baby too, so he should be pitching it. You're an adult, you're parents aren't required to pay your bills for you. My parents had me get on all my own stuff at 16 and I've not relied on them to pay any of my bills since. I would honestly take some time to think about this relationship with him because things WILL change when you have a baby. Babys have to go to the doctors a lot too. Is he not going to acknowledge those bills? Also accusing you of having a baby with someone else is incredibly disrespectful. He sounds immature and selfish. I would just advice to think of this from the perspective of what's best for your daughter.

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Ummm omg first of all he doesn't want to pay your doctor bills when your pregnant with his baby ..second denying that it's his baby ..third talking shit about your parents ...fourth you only want him for his money !!!what else does he need to say or do for you to not only get upset but fucking kick his ass out ???

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Tell him when he gets a college education and has a medical degree, he can tell you all about Dr appointments.

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Ok so he moved in to help pay for the baby? The one hes not sure is his? Your after his money? Lol the money hes so selfishly not willing to give to u to pay for the baby appointments.

On no tell him boiiii bye. Get your stingy A** out my parents house. He knows dang well the babies his or else he wouldn't have moved in with u. Hes trying to avoid responsibility and hes going to say anything to get out of it. Apply for medicare, and wic. When the babies born put him on child support. I know its easier said then done but hw sounds like a kid guys like that dont grow up or think of others.

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He helped make that baby he needs to help pay for her care. You should try applying for Medicaid.

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