almost 36 weeks and optimistically waiting for a shower?

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nobody has offered to throw us one and i damn sure wasn't going to dish out the money to have my own. so we've been getting things together on our own, but my grandma says i ought to "wait to see what happens with a baby shower". am i tripping?! i would rather be safe than sorry. if we continued to wait, baby girl would have no crib, no car seat, no clothes to wear home from the hospital, no diapers, no nothing. am i wrong for 1. being pissed that nobody has offered to throw us a shower, and 2. for getting stuff together on my own? or should i "wait to see if people will help after she's born"? which i think is stupid since nobody can predict when the baby will come anyway?

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WAIT. So there is NO SHOWER planned but your grandmother is telling you to wait for a non-existent party? I'm sorry but if someone is throwing you a damn surprise shower later than 35 weeks they are insane. Get your stuff, it's like someone saying "don't save money you might win the lottery!" 
At most you can leave stuff boxed for another week or two to see if you somehow end up having a shower but youre going to lose your mind if you dont nest and prepare a bit

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Just buy the stuff your baby needs. I was waiting on a couple of friends to throw me one but it never happened. I just finished getting everything for my baby boy and it feels nice to have everything done. If someone throws you one, great. If they don't, that's fine too.

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Is that the norm in america? Like you have to have a baby shower in order to get things? In my country its your baby so your responsible and if you have a shower its just extra gifts on top. and we usually just grateful . 🙄

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Girl go buy your baby stuff. Don't listen to anyone. My aunt suppose to have me a baby shower [which I never wanted] and here I am still waiting on this baby shower to happen. She avoids me at all cost now. Which is stupid because when she was talking about throwing me a baby shower I told her I had already bought everything. I trust no one saying they will buy my child anything. I'll do it all myself before I wait around on anyone.

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Baby can come at any moment , that shower may not. 
I'd  have everything bought already.
I mean pretty much the money u spend on a shower is what you'd  get in gifts  so might as well enjoy the shopping!

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Even if you had a shower, no one will buy a crib, car seat or stroller unless it's your direct family (mom, mother in law, etc). Go buy everything you need and keep receipts in case you do get a shower and double items.

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we bought all thr big stuff on our own.  crib, travel system, ect.  one big need every month until we were finished.  When my friends told me they wanted to throw me a shower, I made sure the invitation said we would accept "gently used 2nd hand items".  it was a great move because  I was NEVER this prepared for my other 2 kids clothes and accessories wise.  BUT, only one person bought stuff off my registry, so you can't depend on your shower to provide necessities.     PLEASE buy and find your own stuff.

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From the jump I had planned to throw myself a shower. This is my 2nd child and I didn't mind. My circle is really small (cause I dont trust easily & I tend to value friendships more than others) & I stay far from family. 
So eventually my dude's mother volunteered to do one but she claimed it was going to be old school, & for the old folks, but no games for an hour @ Golden Corral. I was like what the heck is old school lol I was cool with that, I had planned to attend hers & still do mines. Long story short on her end something came up and that was ok cause I ended up being out of town for death in family. 
So at some point before that my homegirl volunteered too but eventually wanted to surprise me with one. Which I was like how you say you going to do it and discuss certain things with me and weeks later on Mother's Day & say you're not going to do one (I assume to surprise me). So I still had in my mind that I will do my own. My so called homegirl wanted to do it at 37 weeks. My birthday is July 8th. I wasn't taking any chances. 37 weeks was too long & too close to due date 4 me. Needed to know what i needed to buy that wasnt gifted to me. These next 5 weeks is my time to take it easy and relax @ home cause who knows with this baby(anything could happen). So here it is my bday is on a Saturday and I have nothing else to do so why not?! My bday was the perfect timing for me. Killed 2 birds with one Stone! Others thought it was a great idea too. I was mourning the whole month before and my birthday time was the perfect pick me up as well & I can't stand last minute planning. My so called BFF didn't even come to my bday/shower, gave me a BS excuse. Story is deeper than this but it's all good! I did my own w/ my mate & we had a blast. I did all my decor & food. 
I shared this to say I feel you girl & trust your gut & do your own or have a back up plan to do so next time. I was thnxful rather I had one or not. Sometimes we just have to do things ourselves.

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I'm on the same boat! I'm 36 weeks and I've been buying the baby stuff and everyone keeps telling me to wait for my baby shower. I'm sorry but I'm not going to wait until who knows when to see if I'm having a baby shower or not. I already bought his newborn, 0-3 and some 3-6 month clothes. I got his travel system back in May. He really doesn't need anything anymore since I've bought everything for him.

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I think around here it's common courtesy for a close day member to step up and throw one. Especially for first time parents who need everything. It's kind of like a bachelor or bachelorette party, no one HAS to plan one, but it is common practice so it is somewhat expected. I'm sorry no one has actually stepped up for you. Maybe they were all worried someone else was doing it?

almost 36 weeks and optimistically waiting for a shower?

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