Venting: His parents are and have always been abusive to him
So my dude isn't allowed to see his mother. And chooses not to see his father too often. His dad was horrible to the family when my babe was growing up. Treated my MIL like shit and left her when she got cancer. Left the family on my babe's 10th birthday and did some other disgusting and abusive shit. So I don't see a problem with him not wanting him around even when we have kids.
Anyway his mom got an order of protection against him in February or March of this year. She said that he crossed a line and made too many death threats towards the family. Even though several times before this she would talk to me about how she knows what my babe is like and that he would "never hurt a fly"..
He's dealing with chronic pain and abandonment issues (his dad leaving and his mom kicking him out onto the streets on Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a> because he was 18 and she didn't get alimony any more). His pain is from his parents not taking him to the doctor or dentist when he was growing up so he is left to deal with old minor problems that have developed into occasionally very real medical problems.
I love my man so much. Reminding myself of all this helps me to understand why he acts immature sometimes and why he always wants to be high. It's usually just weed. And we don't even have much of that too often. We are homeless and engaged. We are a team. We've got our problems but always get through it and to make it work. I love him so much. I knew he was the one within the first few hours I met him. He treats me with so much love I can't understand how parents can ever be horrible and not try to understand their kid. He's just so wonderful I feel so lucky that he's mine. I can't wait to have his babies and be married to him forever. He makes me so happy.

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