Is it selfish to ask for donations (gofundme accounts etc.) for IVF treatments? A couple friends & I were having this conversation the other day & a point was made that if they "can't afford the treatment, how can they afford the child?" -- " IVF can often times result in multiples." My personal stance is if it is their prerogative to ask for financial help, have at it! But one friend of mine was pretty adamant about it being very selfish. Thoughts? (Sorry if this has already been a topic, I couldn't find it in the search bar)

I'm not a fan of those "go fund me" pages anyways. I'm not down with asking for money for my own wants. For me if it's not something I can afford, it's probably not something I should be doing,

Society is so weird. If you don't want kids, you're selfish. If you want them and have trouble conceiving, but you can't afford thousands and thousands of dollars, you're selfish.

I love when people say that if you have to ask for help with a 15 thousand dollar procedure, you're clearly not financially ready for a baby. That's such bullshit. I would personally never start a donation page for IVF, but not have 15k lying around at your disposal doesn't make you not financially stable. I bet no one would bitch about a go fund me page fmto help with adoption fees, which is astronomically more expensive than any IVF procedure

Fertility can cost 10s of thousands of dollars. Just because you don't have $10,000 sitting in a safe somewhere doesn't mean you can't afford a child. My husband and I are both teachers. We make plenty to be able to afford a child. But we cannot afford fertility treatments. It's not "selfish". There are couples like my husband and I who have spent thousands of dollars for hospital bills due to MCs, who still do not have a child. I know that if I decided to ask for help, my entire community would rally behind me because they know that my husband and I would make great parents. Just my opinion, of course.

No it's not. At all. People who think it is selfish don't realize you are not forcing them to donate. They can just walk away and keep their money to themselves.

Having children is a major major " want" and a very expensive one. I have a hard time wrapping my head around it that people would ask for donations to pay for IVFs. It's the same as me asking for donation to pay for liposuction or other cosmetic surgeries.

Personally I think it's selfish, in the sense that it's for your personal issues or gain. No one else will benefit from it asides you and your partner. If it's purely for family to donate, absolutely fine. The gofundme things confuse me a bit because I think, well, it's down to the individual if they want to donate it's up to them. I'm not 100% saying it's selfish for the reasons ive mentioned above but it's not a cut dry issue!

I honestly think that the people who pass judgement have never suffered from infertility. Usually before IVF, the couple has exhausted every single option because it's so expensive and hard. Who has 25k to just drop on a procedure that may not even work? There's nothing wrong with asking for help.

No its not selfish, you dont have to donate.

No one is obligated to donate to anyone. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Wether it be ivf or adoption, it is extremely expensive and there are many people who would be willing to donate towards someone getting the child they so desperately want. There is absolutely nothing selfish about asking for help.

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LC • Wed, Jul 19 • ttc#1

Is it selfish to ask for donations (gofundme accounts etc.) for <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> treatments?

A couple friends & I were having this conversation the other day & a point was made that if they "can't afford the treatment, how can they afford the child?" -- "<a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> can often times result in multiples." My personal stance is if it is their prerogative to ask for financial help, have at it! But one friend of mine was pretty adamant about it being very selfish. Thoughts?

(Sorry if this has already been a topic, I couldn't find it in the search bar)

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