How do you deal with your MIL?? (Read Description)

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Hey guys 👋🏻 So I'm kinda curious about how you all handle things with your MIL or In-laws just in general... I'll give an example...
my daughter is 7 months old and loooveees to touch everything and put everything in her mouth. She likes to grab at my phone or my glasses but I always try to make a point of not allowing her to have these items. Boyfriend agrees. However MIL has given her cell phone to my daughter who then puts it in her mouth. I'd really like to say something along the lines of "I'd appreciate if you didn't let Hayley play with your phone," but our relationship is already somewhat... difficult. I'm considering mentioning it to BF and hoping he will talk to MIL.
Just curious how you ladies deal/have delt with situations like these!!

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If husband doesn't handle it, I do. He knows NOW not to get to the point of me handling it.

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That's really a hard situation. She's disregarding your rules and parenting which can cause friction very quickly! I understand how you would feel that way. Since both of you agree, which is wonderful, it may be best to first let him talk to her. It will be a more like a simple conversation, I think, and you won't have to worry about potentially blowing up at her. Also, your boyfriend knows her best, of course, and will be able to talk to her with a less potential of her misconstruing a simple request as not permitting her to play freely with her grandchild. Best of luck!

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I tell my husband and he talks to his mom about anything that bothers me. I have a rocky relationship with my MIL so I try not to say anything but if my husband knows it bothers me he will tell her cause he doesn't care if she gets mad at him since she gets over it so quickly where as with me she holds a grudge forever lol

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Luckily my MIL and I have an honest and open relationship. I let her know what I approve of with my son and what I don't. I say handle it yourself but it might put more strain.

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It's your child, and that's gross! I would have said something the first time I saw it happen.

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I wouldn't wait for my husband to say anything if I felt something needed to be said. In-laws or not, they're still people disregarding what you've already asked them not to do or shown them not to do. I don't really care who you are, if you're doing something I don't like I will ask you to stop. And I'll only ask once before turning into an incredible asshole and stop asking.

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As a general rule my husband deals with his parents but I have the right to say what I want if he fails to get it under control. Parents are usually more receptive to their own child

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Your child you do what's best

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Well we aren't married yet, but his mother has had an issue with me since day one. For what reason I have no idea. But whatever...
I don't say anything to her, but my bf knows about it. However if we have children together one day, I will DEFINITELY be speaking my mind and he already knows that.  Sometimes ya just gotta say what it is regardless of how people feel. It's your baby and you have to protect her health and safety. Maybe your MIL doesn't understand how dirty a phone can be.

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I have a great relationship with my mil so I would probably mention it to her myself, however if I didn't I would ask my boyfriend to say something to her.

How do you deal with your MIL?? (Read Description)

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