baby shower drama..

My mom and grandma decided to throw me a baby shower back in June. I was all excited except my boyfriend's entire family was out of town because they were visiting family in another state. And my mother refused to invite my aunt because she is lesbian and they don't agree with her lifestyle. Then the weekend before my shower my other grandmother (my dad's mom) had a stroke and was hospitalized and missed the shower. Well my boyfriend's family is throwing a baby party/shower co-ed thing tomorrow and it's super sweet of them and I'm so excited. However, I'm a little nervous because I invited my aunt and her fiance to come since they couldn't come to the one my mom threw and her fiance is a little out there. And my boyfriend's family is super accepting but it's still gonna be kind of weird since it's mostly his family and just a couple people from my side of the family. I'm also upset because my grandmother who had a stroke will be coming and that stroke really messed her up. And I feel horribly guilty because I know the stroke wasn't her fault obviously but she has had a minor stroke in the past and she still would smoke like 2 packs a day. And now she barely knows where she is most of the time and I feel like I will be having to babysit her the whole time... And I love her to death but she's always been very over the top and now she literally calls me 10 times a day asking if she missed the party and she calls my other family members like my mom and my other grandmother freaking out and asking for the address. She left my mom a voicemail saying she couldn't get the passcode to get into my phone and she needed the address. And I'm frustrated because it doesn't sound like the rest of my family is really taking care of her and I don't know how I'm going to handle it tomorrow. half of the time she can't even remember that I'm the pregnant one (I'm 37 weeks and huge) and she asks my cousin who isn't pregnant and looks literally nothing like me when her baby is coming. She calls me by different names and can't remember whether it's a boy or girl... I'm just heartbroken and I know I sound selfish and horrible but I'm having a hard time dealing with this. We have never been close to begin with (she was always the grandma that told me I was too fat and yelled at me for my nail polish chipping and I had issues with my dad and she blamed me for him and I's poor relationship...). I'm just getting to a point where I got everything I needed from the first shower and I don't even wanna go to this tomorrow.. 😭