how would you feel.

My husband and I have been married for 9 years and are now new parents... however throughout my pregnancy I admit I have not desired sex at all and even when I would try it hurt like hell, so for the most part I avoided sex, but would try to please my husband other ways. I also work over night so our schedules would be off sometimes. however i would ask my husband when was the last time he masturbated and he would tell me or sometimes say he forgets... im three weeks postartum and still on pelvic rest but yesterday i asked my husband when was the last time he masturbated, he answered. My reply was why didnt even ask me or interact with me. his reply was i just took care of it. even before the baby i feel that our sex life is non exsistant, part of it is my fault but he doesnt try either... theres more to the issues but im afraid were not gonna make it... and this is not the only issues we have. but i strongly feel when the sex life of a relationship is gone your in trouble. (sorry for mispelled words or runon sentences.)