UPDATE : I just wanted to say thank you to all you amazing ladies on here! I was so broken for days bc of this stupid crap and you ladies being so supportive literally brought me to tears! I feel so much better! You are all amazing!

So today I finally had a breakdown! My husband is currently gone on a short mission for the military at our old hospital base and I'm alone caring for our 2 children and dogs and myself being newly pregnant, normally no big deal at all! I work full time running my own business and have been quite successful this year which I'm so very proud of. Well today on my way home from work with my youngest child in tow sleeping in his stroller (he's 1 yr old now) I had to stop at the grocery store to literally pick up 3 ITEMS! I go to check out and the place is packed I insert my car my total is about $12 and my card declines. Ok no big deal maybe they fraud protected me for some online purchases I made for the business. Well the cashier declares loudly that my card declines for insufficient funds I proceed to argue (I know unnecessary) asking him to run it again bc I know there's plenty of money in my account. He then loudly declares again my card declining and saying if I don't have an alternative form of payment I must exit the line without my items.(all the while practically yelling this unnecessarily loud) I politely apologize for the inconvenience and my argument and leave humiliated! I could feel all the other women behind me staring with their quiet judgements. It was horrible.

I felt like a failure as a mother for not being able to buy simple items in my husbands absence. This is the first time I truly felt like a dependa in our 4 yes of marriage!

I have been in some low spots in my life financially and worked my ass off to get out of that place! Normally something so simple wouldn't hurt me so deeply but today it broke me!

I check my account while leaving the store to find it's practically empty bc my information was stolen and someone charged up my account to the sum of approximately $500! I sat in my car balling my eyes out for ten minutes while my son slept in his car seat! I tell my husband what happens and he doesn't even bat an eye says he will go to the bank for me and deposit money right away while the bank sorts out our fraud claim. (It's a joint bank account but he never uses it anymore he prefers a different bank & we keep our money separate ever since we had a nasty custody dispute with my daughters father so we have another account that's in his name with another bank)

I know I'm overly emotional about this simple situation but I had to get it out somewhere!