Beyond mad at colleague!!

Hey!

I'm self employed together with another woman, lets call her Elli. We run a private daycare with children aged 1-3 years and have 5 of them at the moment. We have rules that apply to all children and parents and the parents know about this before we take their child. We try to keep up a good communication with the parents to do what's best for their child, it´s kind of co-parenting if you will.

We have one girl that acts out a lot and kind of terrorizes the other kids with hair-pulling, biting, pushing, taking toys away, you might even call her a little bully. We talked to the parents in the past to find out what's causing this, because acting out is normal to a certain point but in all those years I have never had a kid that limitless in her behavior towards others. She doesn´t react to Elli and me if we tell her no and throws major fits if one of us takes her out of the room to keep the other kids save and to show and tell her that this kind of behavior is not tolerated. She throws herself on the floor, hitting us and herself and screams, it is really worrying.

Today Elli and I wanted to talk to the mom again, who feels offended really quickly and is really emotional. We wanted to tell her that we need to be on the same page regarding her girl, because with our rules and a lot of time-outs her behavior got a bit better the last 4 weeks. The mother on the other hand told us yesterday that her daughter is a "strong and free spirit" and "that is just her exploring the world" and we "need to let her be".

Halfway through the conversation Elli backed out of our plan,agreeing to try and change some rules, leaving me all alone to the then following hateful speech of the momm that thinks I'm damaging her kid by setting rules. Rules she knew about beforehand...

I'm so pissed at Elli, but she left together with the mom before I could talk to her and I had to take care of two kids who woke up from their nap.

I'm also dissapointed and worried, because she is supposed to take over the whole group for 4-5 months once I'm pregnant (ttc for 4 months) and on maternity leave.

She isn´t taking my calls and I don't want to discuss what happend in front of the children tomorrow morning. GAAAH!!! I´m so stressed by this whole thing and I'm in my tww, I'm also sleep deprived and very emotional at the moment because of the tww.

so maybe I'm overreacting, but I needed to write this down to get my head clear.

Thanks for reading if you made it this far, I appreciate it!