Am I the only one who thinks this whole thing of shaming pregnant women who complain is absurd?

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I see it ALL THE TIME on this app and on social media. A pregnant woman complains, and a woman with fertility problems comments to her "well at least you can get pregnant, just be grateful and suck it up". This is ridiculous! I used to roll my eyes before I got pregnant at the women who complained, but I had no idea how much it really does suck. And my pregnancy has been easier than a lot of women's! 
A woman complaining isn't automatically ungrateful. pregnancy is uncomfortable. Miserable at many points for most. Her bottling that up and feeling awful, all alone without emotional support won't make you any less infertile or help you get pregnant. 
I've bottled up my complaints my whole pregnancy because I knew someone would mock me or something if I complained but I am so done with that. If soemone has an issue with my complaints or thinks I'm being ungrateful you can 🖕🏻 off. I hope all women feel free to complain if they feel like it, without being judged or made to feel like they're being ungrateful. You aren't.
Forgot to add: I've been on both sides of this spectrum. We TTC for 3 years before I got pregnant. I had to use medications to even get pregnant. So I understand that side too.

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So gross. It doesn't matter if you tried for 2 months or two yrs, pregnancy can suck ass sometimes. I have been trying for almost 4 yrs and I would never think to bad mouth a woman who was growing another human

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I love this post. I didn't have an easy pregnancy. It was scary, and every time I complained I was told it could be worse and I should be happy. Telling me to be happy and enjoy my pregnancy won't make it happen.

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Pregnancy is amazing.
I don't mean to be rude or say anything bad about pregnancy but in the eyes of medicine, a fetus is like a parasite. 
Your body makes the wall to protect the bag from your body, if it was not there then we wouldn't be able to procreate since it's a "foreign object" in your body. You are never in homeostasis while pregnant, it's like having a very long sickness, hormones going up and down. Your body hurts. The baby is taking up space and your organs are crushed or squished by it. Your body swells up, your stomach gets larger. Yes being pregnant and giving birth is a beautiful thing but some people don't realize what it does to your body. 
If you were to have the muscles the vagina has in your arm instead, you'd be able to KO mayweather with one punch. It's the most amazing part of a woman's body. The contractions are just so powerful, they can break your spine. 
I've never been pregnant but I think it's very awesome and I can't wait to have a kid in the future and actually experience all of this. 
Pregnant women need a break. If anyone is having trouble ttc, I wish you luck and send all the good vibes your way.

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I agree with you to an extent. It's annoying when pregnant women who have no risks involved act like they can't do anything and need everyone to jump up and give them their seat the moment the arrive.

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I agree with you. Pregnancy is uncomfortable and complaints are allowed. Obviously it's annoying when people complain all the time, but saying "wow I'm tired" is perfectly normal and acceptable.

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Drives me nuts. All of the suffering Olympics posts are annoying.

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Here’s where I stand with this. 
I believe every woman has a right to complain about her pregnancy. That shit is HARD. 
And if someone wants to comment about their infertility and how they should be grateful, they should be doing it to make the person complaining feel better and try to shed light in their situation rather than out of spite. 
For example, there’s a difference between this:
Hey girl! I’m sorry you’re feeling like this, I’m sure it’s tough. Just remember there are so many women who aren’t lucky enough to have kids of their own, you’re so strong and have such a blessing and all of this pain will be worth it!
Opposed to this:
For crying out loud stfu 🙄 I’ve been trying to conceive for years. Don’t you DARE complain. You did this to yourself remember?
Big difference.

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thank you for putting it in perspective for me. I too, have found myself rolling my eyes at friends complaining about their pregnancies. I will be putting an end to that.

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People complain about everything. That’s what we do we complain. People complain about losing 10€, when there’s others who don’t even have 1€ to their name. We complain about not knowing where to go for food and theirs countries that have kids who go days without food. I do honestly believe those who have it easier than others need to take a step back and realise they shouldn’t actually be complaining all the time and to appreciate what we have and how lucky we are. 
HOWEVER that doesn’t mean when we are feeling frustrated we can’t just vent about it. It’s not healthy to keep things bottled up. That’s why forums like this are good. But you need to acknowledge your surroundings when you do so. If you’re pregnant and complaining because your feet are sore, then yeah I get it, complain to your spouse a close friend a family member or anyone who cares to listen. Do not go to someone who’s been struggling TTC for years and then get mad they were pissed at you for it. 
Also realise that constant complaining day and night is annoying and nobody will want to listen to that either. When I say constant I mean every other word is a complaint. I’m not a mother, but i know if you complain that much during the pregnancy, you’re not going to have a good time when the baby comes, just saying. 😂😂😂

Am I the only one who thinks this whole thing of shaming pregnant women who complain is absurd?

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