sex drive issues!

hello everyone I'm 25 and have never in my life really had a sex drive. It has effected my relationships my hole life, iv tried different things and had a lot of people say oh your guys not doing it right or something along the lines of I can't find my kink... but that's not it. I will want to have sex but have no drive for it at all I know there is things like women Viagra but I don't like that idea anything anyone might no of that could help? thanx