asexual? heteroromantic? bisexual

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okay this might be a kind of confusing story. ive never felt valid anywhere and here's why. 
i believe sexuality is one of the most fluid things we as humans can be. That being said, I used to think I was bi-sexual. Ive had sex with both genders and I feel sexual attraction towards both genders, BUT the thing is, I only feel romance towards men - I can only see myself dating a man, marrying a man, etc. As well as, every time i've had sex with either gender - i hate it? I hate having sex! no matter how turned on I get by either gender, as soon as it comes down to actually having sex, i am miserable. i just want it to be over as soon as it starts. I can literally go months without having sex.
 I just get so confused because I do get turned on and I want to have sex before it happens. Am I actually Asexual/Heteroromantic? And what about my sexual feelings to both genders? Is anyone going through the same thing? what do you identify as? how have you processed everything?

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You don’t sound ace? I don’t know if it’s just not enough info, but you sound sex repulsed, which isn’t the same as asexuality. You could be both though. But you can totally be bisexual and heteroromantic. You could even be grey-bisexual and heteroromantic.

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Thank you for the new perspective on sexual encounters - I've never thought about my feelings in those terms but that is almost exactly the way I feel about sex pretty frequently. 
I'm definitely bi-romantic and bi-sexual tho.

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I felt the same way! I like kissing and I can get turned on but as soon as someone goes to actually have sex like penetration I get sick to my stomach. I want to like it but I can't? And maybe I've just had bad experiences but I totally understand. As of right now I don't really identify as anything, I just say bisexual bc I don't know how to classify myself as anything else.

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You sound heteroromantic! sexuality wise you could be on the asexuality side. there's more than just asexuality. you can be bisexual and still lie on the asexuality spectrum. for years I thought I was demipansexual but now I think I'm asexual completely. 
this might be some help but idk :)

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I haven't had sex, but I think I experience a very similar thing. I experience sexual/romantic attraction towards both men and women (haven't met very many trans people so idk about that), but then when I think about actually having sex, it feels wrong in some way, regardless of with whom I imagine having sex. There are only a few people I can actually imagine having sex with without feeling repulsed, so I think I must be Demi-bisexual.

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Asexual heteroflexible maybe

asexual? heteroromantic? bisexual

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